Post # 1
I am trying to decide if we are doing a first look or not. FI is all for whatever I want to do! We are spending a LOT on photos and I would like to have some time to do photos before the ceremony I think… It just saves our guests from waiting too long… I think it makes sense. Emotionally I will probably be an absolute wreck all day just because I’m terrible for that!! (I couldn’t even get through my very SHORT speech at my sister’s wedding). So… I think it would help me to get a bit of that out so I’m not blubbering down the aisle.
BUT I am terrified of wrecking that “moment” when we see each other for the first time/when I’m walking down the aisle. I’ve heard from brides you still get that moment but I wanted to get some opinions.
How did yours go? Do you regret it, even a little tiny bit? Was it everything you wanted? Did it help?
Post # 3
We did a first look and it was amazing. Honestly, walking down the aisle wasn’t all the special because I was still a nervous wreck and was trying not to trip the entire time. I am SO glad we did a first look because we got a special moment to be together and take everything in. You can count on your walk down the aisle being this super special time when there are so many things that could be going on to distract you. The first look is a great time to see each other and get great pictures. My favorite pictures from the entire day are our first look pictures.
Post # 4
We haven’t had our wedding yet, but we are doing the first look and trying to get as many of the wedding photos out of the way before the ceremony. The biggest complaint I’ve heard from people about other weddings they’ve been to is that the bride and groom took forever with photos and left all their guests waiting. I think long gaps between the ceremony and reception are also annoying (personal preference). Plus, if we’re paying for a cocktail reception I want to be there to enjoy it and mingle with our guests.
I have also heard from several wedding professionals that they always recommend doing the first look. You’ll be less jittery walking down the aisle and you’re much less likely to leave your guests hanging.
Post # 5
You get that moment on your wedding day regardless of where it happens. It’s not made less special by a first look. We had a one hour photo shoot just the two of us before our ceremony, and it was hands down my favorite part of the day! It was the only unrushed time we had where it was just the two of us all day!
Post # 6
Walking down the aisle will be an emotional and happy moment either way.
Post # 7
@ashleekathryn: I am SOOO glad we did it, because I was so nervous walking down the aisle, that I barely looked at him. Our first look was so amazing, we both cried and it was just so nice to have privacy.
Post # 8
@ashleekathryn: My FI and I are very traditional, so we are not doing a first look. I want to see that look on his face when I walk down the aisle.
I know other brides still had that amazing moment, but its not for us
Post # 9
We did a first look, and I felt it was so much more spreciate than walking down the aisle would have been. Granted, we did it because of time issue and wanted photos before the ceremony, but I don’t regret it at all. It was still a beautiful, intimate moment, even with a few people there to capture it. We also got to talk and admire each other, whereas we wouldn’t have been able to do that if it had been when I came down the aisle.
Post # 10
We’re planning to do a first look.
The more I have thought about it, I realize I don’t care as much about a moment walking down the aisle. I care more about being able to share that special moment with my fiance, not 200 guests and 70 cameras. I don’t want to have to fight back tears and worry about ruining my makeup. I don’t want to be so nervous that I feel sick before I walk down the aisle. I don’t want to miss that moment walking down the aisle because my dress is falling, I’m tripping over my own feet, my dad is holding my arm uncomfortable, my nephew is screaming in the front of the church, or whatever else could go wrong.
I just want to be with my fiance. I want to see him, hold him, kiss him, and not hold back my emotions.
Post # 11
@ellie-b: Agree with your post completely. We got married this weekend and we did a 5pm ceremony which went straight into cocktails then the reception so there’s no big time gap (our guests really really liked that). I have to say from experience though that even though we did a first look and pictures before the ceremony, the composed family pictures still took up the entire cocktail hour (it’s finding and rounding up all the family members, other people taking pics, etc.)…so be warned, haha.
Post # 12
We did a first look and I wouldn’t change it. Truthfully, I HATE the pictures but the logistics of the day more than made up for that. We did not plan our first look because I didn’t even think about it until the day of. Since we had to wing it our photographer was not in the right spot and our entire wedding party was there.
Like I said though, the logistics of the day more than made up for that. I got to hang out with the entire party most of the day, we had tons of time for pictures and our guests didn’t have an awkward time gap.
And! My walk down the aisle was in no way ruined just because we had already seen each other. We have this great picture where I’m taking his hand right at the front of the church and we are just smiling stupidly at each other. So even though our first look pictures didn’t turn out the way I wanted we still have some other great pictures that show our emotions on our wedding day.
Post # 13
The two people who say it’s a bad idea/ruins the moment: did you actually do a first look, or are you just assuming?
Post # 14
We’re planning on doing a first look before the ceremony. I’m so excited for it! So is my fiance. He says it’s the thing he’s looking forward to the most (other than the getting married part. :P)
I think we’ll still have that moment walking down the aisle because to us it’s more than the way each other looks that makes that moment special. It’s knowing that you’re walking to your husband, partner for life.
Plus, I think it’ll be more intimate for us to do a first look alone. Then we can just focus on each other and not all the other people staring at us.
Do what you feel. If you don’t want to ruin the walk, then wait. There are other really cute pictures you can take without seeing each other. some ideas…
Post # 15
@ashleekathryn: I was TOTALLY AGAINST the first look but now Im so happy we did it!! It was a sponaneous decision I made the night before our wedding and Im glad I changed my mind 🙂
My husband’s face is priceless when he first sees me and it gives me butterflies everytime I watch the video or look at our pics!
Here is our video, if you are curious: https://vimeo.com/70439029
Post # 16
A family member who is a photographer says that he usually sees the best reactions in traditional walking down the aisle moments, not first looks.He recommends skipping first looks to preserve that. (Plus there have been cases where in the course of taking pre-ceremony pictures, everyone ends up seeing the bride, so it’s not as big of a deal when she makes her entrance for the ceremony.)
Which is kind of strange. You would think a photographer would want to do first looks to get pictures done before the ceremony.