To first look or not to first look.

posted 3 years ago in Photos/Videos
  • poll: did you do first look
    yes : (61 votes)
    33 %
    no : (70 votes)
    38 %
    planning on doing it. : (53 votes)
    29 %
  • Post # 3
    7191 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2013

    We had a first look with just the two of us and our photographer. It was hands down our favorite part of the day! It was so nice to be able to see each other alone for the first time and be able to tell each other how wonderful the other looked and how excited we were. I’ll never forget some of the sweetest things my DH said to me and the way he looked at me. We are both also kind of private about emotions in front of other people, so I feel like this was a much more genuine reaction from both of us than we would have given if we had waited until the ceremony. It was also amazing for getting rid of all of the stress and any nerves that the planning and day had caused, and we felt so connected during our ceremony. I can’t speak highly enough of first looks!

    Post # 6
    9204 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2018

    I don’t want to, neither does FI. I am very traditional, I want the first moment he sees me on our wedding day to be when I am walking down the aisle with my dad 🙂

    Post # 7
    2167 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    I plan on it because we want different scenic shots and I have two dresses, we must do “First Look” photos. My SO has no problems with the idea of it!

    Post # 8
    1175 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    @nearly-mrs-R:  We are doing a first look.  Honestly, I cannot wait to have a few minutes alone before going on parade before everyone else.  I never heard of it before the Bee.  I thought is was kind of weird at first, but now I see the pictures, and the emotion.  And I have changed my mind.

    @Cory_loves_this_girl:  Everytime I see you pictures I smile.  You both look over the moon in love!

    Post # 9
    4698 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Yes and it was so wonderful, I cannot possibly recommend it enough. The aisle walk was still incredibly moving and special and emotional, it took nothing away from any part of the day other than my nerves and anxiety! It also let us enjoy the cocktail hour we paid for with our guests. It was pretty public actually, which is the only thing I regret. I wish we had done it somewhere a little more secluded. 

    Post # 10
    559 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2014

    I love the idea but I haven’t mentioned it to my Fiance. It just hasn’t come up yet but I also think I haven’t asked because he probably won’t want to:/ He is more traditional than I am. I really LOVE the idea of meeting up,just the two of you. We shall see

    Post # 11
    687 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    I think you should do what feels best in your situation. It doesn’t sound like you’re super comfortable with the idea of a first look, so I’d skip it – it will end up being just one more decision to doubt before the big day!

    Post # 12
    37 posts
    • Wedding: August 2014

    I think it depends on the situation, but we are doing a first look. We are doing the first look because our ceremony and reception are at the same location and by doing the first look, we can have pictures around the city prior to the ceremony and not miss cocktail hour with our family and friends. If you have a lapse inbetween your ceremony and reception (meaning different locations) then maybe a first look may not be needed, but again I think it depends on your situation!

    Post # 13
    864 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2015

    @nearly-mrs-R:  I’m a waiting bee so my input might not count as much, lol. But I love the idea of a first look, and here’s why. Our wedding is such a huge day; we are making the commitment of marriage to each other. I think Mr. H should get the privilege of seeing me first, since it’s our day, and vice versa. I want us to be able to have an emotional reaction if it happens, I want him to calm my nerves bc I know I’ll need it, and I want photos of both of us during this time. 

    I strongly believe that the walk down the aisle will be just as emotional and awesome as it would be if you didn’t do a first look, bc it’s the first time everyone else sees you. its the moment you start in motion your ceremony. It’s still going to be awesome. 

    whatever you decide, I hope you have a beautiful day! 🙂

    Post # 14
    1681 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    When we first started planning our wedding I said, “Absolutely no WAY will I have a first look!”

    After planning a bit, the feminist side of me wanted to break the tradition of him not seeing me (After all, the groom didn’t see the bride and she wore the blushed covering her face to ensure he wouldn’t think she was ugly and back out of the wedding. Pretty sure I’m not being sold into marriage.)

    I also wanted more time for pictures. It turned out to be the best possible situation for me and the absolute BEST part of our day!! I loved sharing such an intimate moment with him and not having to worry about holding back my emotions. It melted away my extreme emotions and helped me feel so calm and excited to marry him. (I’m a crier, as in leading up to the wedding, I cried everytime I practiced our vows, I cried everytime I heard our first dance song, the song I would walk down the aisle to, etc. I wanted to enjoy my walk down the aisle, and I did.


    And my walk down the aisle was still an emotional tear-jerker.

    Post # 15
    105 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    @nearly-mrs-R:  For time purposes we were going to do it (before we changed the whole wedding and decided to go to Vegas).  I hate the idea of any amount of time leaving the guests on their own.  

    We were going to do a cocktail hour, but that was going to be around $2000 and when I explained we could skip that if we did a first look and showed him some great pictures of first looks, he was onboard.  

    PLUS, he is the more traditional one.  I wanted him to help me pick the dress…LOL

    Post # 16
    30284 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    We did a first look and we loved it, but I think it’s something that you should do if only both of you agree on it.  It’s not totally necessary! I also love that special moment when the bride walks down the aisle and the groom sees her for the first time. 🙂

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