To first look or not

posted 3 years ago in Photos/Videos
Post # 3
2313 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@MochiBride:  I’m definitely not doing one, but I’m generally apathetic about photos so the pros of the first look are kind of lost on me.  I just want to save the first look moment for the aisle, I feel like it would be anticlimactic otherwise.  But I know lots of people do them and love them so I think if your priority is to get a bunch of good photos the first look is probably a good bet.

Post # 4
1670 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

We want to do one for a few reasons

1. I don’t want to do a lot of formal photographs after the wedding.

2. I want to see him before the ceremony (I know it will calm me down)

3. Our church doesn’t allow photographers anywhere but the back of the church and I would love to be able to capture his real reaction.

I was on the fence about it, but my FI won me over – he said I will handle the whole day better if he can give me a hug beforehand. He’s right!

Post # 5
6812 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

We are not doing one. FI is super traditional about not seeing me before the wedding. Instead, we are doing a sunrise ceremony with pictures in daylight in right after and then an evening reception to follow that night. We’re also doing a destination wedding, so it’ll be cooler in the morning and in the evening and I didn’t want to be out in the sun during my ceremony or spend the entire day getting ready from like 12pm. So, there were a few reasons for doing it this way, but the main one was not seeing each other beforehand.

If you do a first look, I think you should see if you can do it at the ceremony site – have him stand at the altar and have you walk down the aisle to him. That’s how I would do it if I were doing a first look.

Post # 6
6446 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

We did a first look and I would definitely not change it. How much would you actually have to rush to be ready on time? Our first look was at noon and I had plenty of time to get ready.

The pro for me was to get rid of the time gap between the ceremony and the reception. We have a wedding in a couple of weeks where there is a two hour time gap :/ That’s not enough time to go home and I don’t really want to go wander around a mall in my wedding wear! I also loved hanging out with my DH and the wedding party the rest of the day.

Also, it didn’t make our moment down the aisle any less special to us. We still got some great pictures of that!

Post # 7
4513 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

We’re definitely doing one. I’ve never heard of a person that did one and regretted it, most say that it was the best decision. I think seeing my FI beforehand will be so much more intimate than with with a room full of people. I would do it if you can manage making the time work.

Post # 8
7178 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

We did a first look, and I wouldn’t change a thing! DH’s reaction was something I will always remember, as well as the sweet words he said to me. It was priceless, and our favorite part of our day 🙂

Post # 9
6158 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

we are doing them, we want our immediate family and wedding party photos done before the ceremony so all of our guests can enjoy cocktail hour.

i also think it will calm me a little before the ceremony.

you want to look your best so if you are rushed to get ready, i do not think it is a good idea.

Post # 10
8844 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

We did one and it was soooo great.  It wasn’t so much for the photos (although we did get some nice photos out of it) but rather to get a little time together to be like “We’re doing this!!!!!” and just have a special few moments together.

Once the ceremony starts, your wedding day FLIES by in a haze of craziness – awesome, fun, joyful craziness, but crazy nonetheless.  Having a few minutes ahead of time to JUST spend with my husband and soak it all in was invaluable.

Post # 11
113 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I plan on doing one for photography sakes, butalso because I want sometime with FI before the insanity. 🙂

Post # 12
1071 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Greenbrier Country Club

You could always book the photog on another day to get the lighting you want.

Post # 13
765 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@MochiBride:  We did a first look and seriously the shots from the first look are my favorites. It was the calm before the storm and it was a quiet moment with just us and our immediate families. It was great. I


Post # 14
1871 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

We did a first look and I liked it because we got a lot of our photos out of the way and it helped me not to cry so much during the ceremony. I always cry at weddings and thought I would be a mess at mine!!

Our ceremony didnt start until 6:30 so there was plenty of time in the day to get ready before we started taking pictures at 4ish.

Post # 15
2565 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

My ceremony is at 5pm, and because of a sound ordinance in the community all weddings (not just at my venue, the whole area) must be over by 10:30pm.  We are doing a first look and all posed family/wedding party photos before the ceremony so they are out of the way and we can enjoy the whole reception.

Post # 16
772 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I think you should go for it. 

We didn’t do them, because DH was dead set against it, he really wanted the first time he saw me to be when I came down the aisle. And I am totally fine with it. But if he had changed his mind I would have done a first look in a heartbeat!

Go for it!

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