Post # 1
I have a bit of a funky situation, and thought you ladies might be able to help out!
I have a friend who was supposed to be married in a destination wedding at the beginning of October. We were all going to fly down to Jamaica for her wedding. Turns out, her and her Fiance are expecting and due in early September. Because of this, they postponed their wedding to June of 2013. We still plan on going and are excited for them that so much good news is happening!
I had a feeling that they might do this…they were legally married on June 1st by a JOP. They told us afterwards b/c they just wanted to be married before the baby came…totally understandable. None of her friends were invited or even told until afterwards, and I totally understand why they did what they did and when, b/c now they’ll be able to do a vow renewal ceremony and have their “big” wedding in Jamaica next June.
Now…on to my question! Do I send them a gift now? I wasn’t invited to the JOP ceremony, but she’s one of my best friends, and I’d love to send her something for the wedding. We’re going to be spending a good amount of money to fly to Jamaica in 2013 for her, so I feel like giving her a gift now would be better. But…is that weird b/c I wasn’t invited to the actual wedding? Should I wait to give a gift until we’re in Jamaica? What do you ladies think?
Post # 3
I could give it now. You’re still celebrating her marriage, whether you were invited to the actual wedding or not.
Post # 4
- Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA
I would give it to her now, expecially since they had to postpone things, it will help her feel like the small intimate ceremony was special and “real” too– not just that they’re waiting until next year.
Post # 5
I would send the gift now. You do not need to be invited to the wedding to send a gift.
Besides, it will spread out the cost if you will have travel expenses later.
Post # 6
Thanks ladies…I was leaning towards sending the gift now, but my Darling Husband thought we should wait.
@julies1949: This was also another reason why I was thinking of sending it now…since we’re spending a lot later when we book the trip, it would be nice to get the gift expense out of the way now rather than later.
Post # 7
Whatever feels right, I’d say. I always love presents. 🙂 My BIL and SIL had 3 ‘weddings’ and we didn’t give them a gift until the last one (the one I went to – wasn’t told when they were going to city hall, and didn’t make the trip to China).
You could send them a card and small gift now, but buy their gift and just save it, then give it to them before you all leave for the ‘wedding.’ It would drive her bonkers wondering who bought it if it came from a registry. 🙂
Post # 8
i would give a gift now and then just enjoy their company in Jamaica