Post # 1
My SO has ask me not to buy him anything for V-Day! At first I had considered not buying him anything, but he buys me such great gifts for all gift giving holidays & my birthday. (I can’t say anniversary because techinally we don’t have one, over time we just knew we were meant to be). So I have decided to buy him a CD Player with a 7 inch screen for his car. I know he will be excited about this because he has been wanting one for a while! Would you by your SO/FI/DH a gift if he ask you not too?
Post # 3
@MrsFrog2Be: We always do something small, even if we say we aren’t going to do anything 🙂
Post # 4
@MrsFrog2Be: Why did he ask you to not buy him a gift?
I ask my FI to not buy me anything because we’re currently saving, and I’d prefer to do without luxuries until we’ve reached our goal. If he bought me something, I would be grateful but also slightly annoyed because the money would have come from our account (we have 100% joint finances). If the cost is extravagant, I’d probably auggest returning it since it’s the thought that counts.
If he had bought me a nominal gift, however, I’d be thrilled by the thoughtfulness.
In other circumstances, like telling someone to not get you anything just because, then I think giving a nice gift would be lovely.
Post # 5
Nope. No gift. But I would get him Vday card and make a special desseert with dinner.
Post # 6
I would do something small, if there’s a reason he asked for no gifts.
For instance, FI and I overspent on Vday last year. Now we really need to save for some major purchases, so I’d be upset if he bought me something expensive instead of putting the money towards our goals.
I also know guys who will feel uncomfortable with a gift because they can’t afford to reciprocate or don’t want to.
Post # 7
I think it’s a bit unfair if you had the discussion and agreed to it, and then are going back on your agreement.
Did you agree? or is this just something he said and you didn’t bother to validate??
I would feel terrible if we agreed no gifts, then my partner got me something anyhow.
Post # 8
@CurlyCue: I’ll be buying him a card, but we always go out for dinner. He doesn’t think that either of us should have to cook on special days!
@PromiseRooster: He has always ask for no gift, he says that he has everything that he could want and need & if he doesn’t he can buy it for himself. He is such a sweetheart and is use to people taking advantage of him. I’m the first woman he’s been involved with that will buy him something just because & not be expect anything in return!