(Closed) To gift or not to gift?

posted 6 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
1798 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Proper etiquette says that invited guests should send a gift, even if they don’t come. But, I’ve seen couples take advantage of this by inviting everyone under the sun to get more presents. Personally, I’d see this as a gift grab and wouldn’t send a gift.

Post # 4
72 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Totally appropriate not sending a gift. Besides, gifts should always be optional.

Anyway, I got several invitations like that in the past. I just reply with “No. Congratulations!” on the RSVP card.

After planned my own wedding, I don’t understand how other have rooms to invite people they barely knew.

Post # 5
408 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@jellybellybear:  I am the same as you–we are bursting at the seams with our guest list and I sincerely cannot imagine how I could invite ‘gift’ guests!

I would not give a gift to this couple. In fact, I think the most I would even consider is a card. (besides the RSVP)

Post # 6
46258 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I would send a card and wish them well.

Post # 7
1199 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

@orchid84:  I think it depends on how well you know the couple.  If it was a close friend and I couldn’t go, I’d still send a gift (I’ve done this in the past).  In your case, it does seem like a stretch that you’re invited.  I’d just send a card.

Post # 8
5 posts
  • Wedding: September 2012

Sent from my Android

Post # 9
635 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@orchid84:  You absolutely do not have to send a gift. You can write a nice note of congratulations, but no gift is required.

Post # 10
5993 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

My fiance used to work with the groom

im guessing this is why you were invited – if my Fiance (or husband) generally liked him i would send a card and $50 to $100.  if he was scratching his head wondering why he was invited i would send a card and ask him if he wanted us to gift $50 but it would be his call because i know i would be thinking card only

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