To give in to a girl because its her wedding?

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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275 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@MissStruggles:  maybe I’m missing something, what exactly is a flower attendant?? As for what you should tell her, hell no! She didn’t ask you and you have plans with family already. It’s not your fault she didn’t tell you and put it on the program. Is anyone going to look at the program and know/care that someone else was the flower attendant? And seriously what is a flower attendant???!

Post # 4
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7997 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

I would just do it unless you want to lose the friendship. Sucks but hopefully she isn’t this dense all the time. Unless you have super important plans with your family, I would just suck it up. She is definitely in the wrong here, though!

Post # 6
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528 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@MissStruggles:  I think she’s being a bridezilla. Perhaps she meant to ask you earlier and it slipped her mind, but she 100% should have talked to you before printing your name on the program!! Wow. Her poor planning is not your emergency, and I think she’s trying to manipulate you, which isn’t fair. 

Post # 8
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478 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Hmmm. I think I’d tell her “if you’d told me earlier I would have been more than happy to be your flower attendant, but one week is not enough notice and I’ve already made important plans with family members I font get the chance to see often/ever”.

Wtf is a flower attendant anyway!!!! Haha.

Post # 9
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11379 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

@MissStruggles:  can’t the bms pick up the flowers on their own?  do they need someone to “pass” the flowers to them?

Post # 10
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275 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@ellie-b:  this! She’s being a brideszilla! 

 

No one needs to hand the bridesmaids their bouquets.  They are in a box. They pick them up. Done. End of story. 

Post # 12
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528 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@SeaTurtle88:  I know, right?? How is handing out flowers a thing? Are there 100 bridesmaids? Do they lack the ability to bend down and pick up flowers?

OP, no one at the wedding is going to know if you handed out flowers or not, so if you already have plans with your out of town family, I’d keep them. Especially because the bride basically told you about this, instead of asking you to do it.

Post # 13
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528 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@MissStruggles:  Did she give any other reason she wants you to be there? I mean, if she had a bonafide reason for you to be there, it could make sense. Does she just want someone on hand to act as her gofer, to be at her beck and call?

Post # 14
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11379 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

@MissStruggles:  that’s a lot of your time.  are you close to the bride?

Post # 15
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5192 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

Wow, sorry that you’re related to someone who’s insane.  That’s crazy.

 

 I wish your relative would have checked out her idea on the Bee before doing it – we would have advised her against.

But to look on the bright side – do you think it’s possible she’s just trying to make you feel included?  I know sometimes people feel bad that certain friends/family aren’t bridesmaids so they give them lame jobs like “guest book attendant” that are really more like a punishment than a reward.

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