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    smiles4jo    November 13, 2012  

    So, I posted last night about how BF and I went ring shopping two weekends ago.  I also know he’s getting a bonus at work either today or Monday and we are leaving on Thursday for a two week vacation to the sunny South.  Trying not to get my hopes up, but we all know how hard that is…

    This Sunday, there’s a bridal show in town.  I’m considering going (with my mom or some friends), but seeing as I’m not yet wearing a ring (and might not be for a while yet if it doesn’t happen on vacation), I don’t know if that would just make the waiting harder.

    At this point I know it’s a matter of ‘when’ he proposes, not ‘if’, so might be good to start the planning, right?  :)

    Also, I’ve tried VERY hard for the last little while to keep my mouth shut about getting married.  I don’t want to nag some guy into marrying me.  If I decide to go, I’m not sure whether I should even tell him that I’m going cause I don’t want to add to the pressure. 

    So, would you go?  Would you tell BF that you’re going? 

     
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    roxy821    August 21, 2010  

    When I first read that I saw wedding shower and I was like how can she not support someone she loves. Sorry!

    Personally I wouldn't go to a wedding show prior to being engaged. You will have plenty of times and it won't be something you have to hide.

     
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    Roe    June 9, 2012   PA

    If you go, be prepared for a lot of questions about you, your fiance, your wedding date, your venue, etc. It could be awkward.

    Also, I just wouldn't go because I hate crowds and the WIC is a scary, scary crowd. ;)

     
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    parasol    September 16, 2011   Los Angeles

    I personally would never go to a wedding show period (just not my thing). But I definitely think you should wait till you're engaged. Engagement is such a special time in your life, and I think it's fun to save all those wedding planning-related events until you're really engaged. :)

     
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    mmsva    October 9, 2010   Alexandria, VA

    How short or long will your engagment be? If you want to get married in Fall (2012), then go. But if you have  more time, then wait.

     
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    future_schu    November 10, 2012   New Jersey

    I went with a girlfriend of mine 2 months before I was engaged (not that I had any idea I was going to be engaged... no wonder he was alright with me going!)

    We both wore dummy rings as she was also a waiting gal... it felt kinda wrong at the time, and made me a little sad because I wanted the attention for real, and I felt weird to lying to people! Plus I knew my FI and I weren't going to be married until 2013 anyway for reasons important to us, and people just looked at me weird (this was back on October)

    I did get a lot of questions about my date, where we're getting married, and a few even asked how he proposed.

    It was a fun experience and I learned a lot about what I would want vs things I never ever needed, but it did make the waiting even harder, especially after wearing this dummy ring.

     
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    Miss Circe    May 31, 2015   New Zealand

    @parasol:  I second this post. Don't get me wrong, I have researched dresses, venues, etc. online (nothing wrong with getting ideas of what you might want) but I want to save going to wedding shows and such until I'm officially engaged but that's just me. Plus we're planning on a long engagement so I will have plenty of time.

    However, if he is planning on proposing soon and you two will have a short engagement then it might be a good idea to go but it depends on your situation.

     
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    smiles4jo    November 13, 2012  

    Thanks for the input ladies...

    I think I'll skip it for now.  It's hard enough to not get too excited right now, so I think I'd be better off waiting till it's all official.

    I'm just glad I can let the crazy out here! :)

     
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    Tarheelgurl       Canada

    My boyfriend invited me to go with him to an upcoming wedding show, and I'm still on the fence about it. On the one hand it would be alot of fun and eye opening regarding prices and the like. On the other hand though, we're not engaged and I don't want it to be awkward when we're there. It's up to you and what you're comfortable with.

     
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    Miss Circe    May 31, 2015   New Zealand

    @smiles4jo:  Lol letting some of the crazy out with what the Waiting board is for Laughing

     

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