Post # 1
I am in a dilemma. I had a close friend who asked me when she first got engaged to be a bridesmaid in her wedding. This was almost a year before her wedding date and she was excited to start the wedding planning. I of course said yes to being a bridesmaid. She ended moving to a few towns over and myself and another good friend who was asked to be a bridesmaid also. The bride mysteriously stopped talking to us and would not return calls/facebooks. She then started posting about her bridesmaids and it was pretty obvious that we were no longer in the bridal party. Today I got invitations to the wedding, shower, and bachelorette party. I am not sure if I should go I this point, which is the thought of the other friend who was asked to be a bridesmaid. It is an out of town wedding and a big expense. We haven’t heard from her since, what you would do in this situation?
Post # 3
@pebbletots: Personally I wouldn’t go. Not necessarily because she asked you to be a bridesmaid and then recanted, but beause she’s obviously been a crappy friend and I don’t go out of my way to attend weddings for people who haven’t put in an effort.
Post # 4
I wouldnt go, she’s probably just inviting you in the hopes of getting a present. I agree with the previous poster, if she had atleast tried to maintain the friendship than no biggie but 1. she didnt even have the respect to tell you that she no longer needed you to be a bridesmaid 2. she acted as if you didnt excist to her. I dont see a reason to go to any of her events, seems like she doesnt consider you to be friend at all.
Post # 5
I would send her a small gift and decline. If you don’t want to be there then don’t. There may be other people who would love to go but won’t get invited if you say yes but don’t want to be there.
Post # 7
@pebbletots: I would first try to re-establish contact and find out why I was dropped as a bridesmaid. Just dropping her without doing that… I couldn’t do it. There could be an explanation for her behaviour.
Post # 8
I wouldn’t go. If you want to try to salvage the friendship I would email her and let her know your feelings on getting invitations to events when she never spoke with you about kicking you off the bridal party. If she mends I might go, but yeah, I’m more of a walk away person.
Post # 9
If I had a lot of history with her I’d ask her for an explanation and go from there. Otherwise, I’d decline and send a card.