Post # 1
I need your advice! Here’s the deal:
My side of the family and my parents friends don’t do a whole lot of ballroom dancing or dancing to American classics. I naturally assumed a DJ who would play some upbeat pop/techno-y music for my wedding would suffice. But my FI’s side of the family are into ballroom/band dancing. At the FI’s sister’s wedding two years ago, they had a band and everyone at her wedding had a blast.
Finally, FI and my friends are all in our late 20’s, so our club partying days are pretty much over but that is what we used to do – hip hop clubs and the like. So i’m not sure what they would enjoy…
So the question is for brides who have been in this situation, torn b/t band or dj….what made you pick one over the other….or did you decide to do both?
Post # 3
We are having all ages at our wedding and went with the band. Most bands will play everything, not just ballroom/lazy stuff. Find any band’s website, I’m sure they will have samples of their music. Our band played at the Heisman Trophy celebration, and the Fiesta Bowl Ball. They also told me that if I want them to play a song they don’t know, they’ll learn it for me (in a day!). A DJ can play any song, he just needs the MP3 or CD, but a lot of people say they have more fun when there is a band. As my dad said, "get a band, a DJ is like the junior prom".. nice, huh? Otherwise, I may have opted for the DJ because of cost factors, but our band actually wasn’t that much more than a DJ would have been. I’ve never heard of having both, but I can imagine that would get pretty expensive!! Definitely go see some bands in person (if you’re in the area), or find some websites (either from the Knot or elsewhere), request some sample CD’s or listen online, a lot of them sound awful, but a lot sound amazing!!
Post # 4
- Wedding: March 2005 - Westside Loft, New York
our guests ranged from the mid 20’s and up. we decided to have both a band and dj, and it really worked out great. the older guests loved dancing to the band, and because they were dancing so much, i think it encouraged the younger folk to get out on the dance floor as well! the dance floor was pretty much packed all night.
later in the evening when some of the older guests left, we had a dj spinning and the younger guests had a blast.
i think music really makes or breaks a wedding reception — it’s more important to me than the food!
there are certainly merits to both and we were very lucky to be able to have both. if i could have only one or the other in retrospect, i would have gone with the band. i hope that helps! good luck with your decision!
Post # 5
I MUST agree, music makes or breaks it. I can’t remember one thing I ate at any wedding I’ve been to. Or what the favor was, or what the invitations looked like, but I will always remember if I had a good time and that’s always because of the entertainment.
Post # 6
I’d go for both if your budget can afford it.
Post # 7
- Wedding: May 2008 - United Methodist Cathedral & historic downtown hotel in Cleveland
Assuming budget constraints, I’d go with the band. We hired a band for our wedding, and the dance floor was packed all night. Everyone had a blast, and there were some older guests stay right up until the end because the music was so good. And people couldn’t stop talking about how good the music was (and how much more fun the wedding was than other weddings) because we had a band instead of a DJ.
Post # 8
Try hiring a band that does both jazz/swing and some r&b.
Post # 9
i keep going back and forth with this too… if we can squeeze the budget we’ll have both!