Post # 1
Ok ladies my fi is completely against having a wedding cake. He doesn’t eat cake nor does he like cake and he feels if he is not going to eat cake then why do we even need cake. I asked him about cupcakes and his response was I don’t eat sweets why would I pay for something I won’t eat. Anyone have any suggestions as to what I can do about this?
Post # 2
- Wedding: September 2014 - Turf Valley
It is for your guests, too… Just because he doesn’t eat something doesn’t mean you can’t have it for your guests to enjoy.
Post # 3
made2behis1: Is he against just cake, or all sweets?
Post # 4
- Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI
Do you like cake? If you’re both against cake then maybe find something you can agree on for dessert. If you like and want a wedding cake then I think you should have one.
Post # 5
I havent had cake at wedding in years! Most people have a cake but don’t even give it out because the venue gives your guests the dessert they make. My sisters cake was fake except for the top tier so they can take home, maybe you can do that, that way you aren’t spending a lot of money on cake. If your venue doesn’t offer dessert then you should have a real cake to give out. My SO doesn’t like cake either, that’s what we are going to do.
Post # 6
As a guest, I would be disappointed if there wasn’t wedding cake. That is one thing I always look forward to at weddings.
Post # 7
made2behis1: sorry but his comment is ridiculous. Just because he doesn’t eat cake doesn’t mean your guests shouldn’t eat cake either. Have a wedding cake. If he doesn’t eat sweets, than he doesn’t have dessert! A wedding reception is not only for the bride and groom, but for the guests too. The bride and groom are the hosts of the reception, and the guests should be fed.
Post # 8
- Wedding: Davis Island Garden Club
Does he like any other desserts? I was at a recent wedding and they had cheese cake instead. I agre. With PPs, it’s about you guya but it’s about your guests too. They will be expecting dessert.
Post # 9
made2behis1: What about you? Do you eat cake or any kind of sweets?
I agree it’s for guests too, and you don’t need to spend $500 on something you won’t eat yourself, or come up with an alternative. My cousin had a donut cake, my friend have a pie buffet and another friend had an ice cream bar.
We’re having a s’mores bar as well as a dessert buffet (but I LOVE baking, and LOVE sweets). You can do something more scaled down. I’m making most of our desserts, with the help of some faily members. That could be an option for you.
Post # 10
Tell us more about your wedding? I kind of agree that it’s ridiculous to spend 500$ on cake or cupcakes that you won’t enjoy, but if you’re having an evening reception with dinner I think guests will expect some form of dessert. Even if that dessert doubled as a favour (box of truffles, cookies in cellophane, etc.).
Post # 11
made2behis1: what about what YOU want?
Post # 12
Like PP have mentioned, just because he doesn’t like it doesn’t mean your guests won’t enjoy it. My FI doesn’t drink, but there’s no way we wouldn’t serve alcohol. I would honestly be dissapointed if there wasn’t cake or at least some kind of other dessert.
That being said, you don’t have to do a traditional cake. You can do an ice cream bar, dessert bar,
or have multiple cakes in different flavors, which is what we’re planning on doing since FI loves strawberry cheesecake.
Post # 13
made2behis1: Cake isn’t for everyone, this is true, but you need SOMETHING at the wedding. The guests expect a little sugar.
I get that maybe you shouldn’t get a 6 tier cake. but perhaps a dessert table might accetable to him. I would just get a small tier for you to cut(if you were gonna do that) and then just have other desserts.
Normally I say its your do do whatever you want, but I really think you need some type of sweets there.
Post # 14
Thank you ladies for your comments and suggestions, yes I eat cake, personally I don’t care if it’s a wedding cake
vip0802: I absolutely love this idea and I think it will be a big hit with my fi thank you for the idea.
Post # 15
made2behis1: I attended a wedding where they served strawberries and ice cream for dessert.
I was wondering where the cake was and somewhat disappointed but open to new ideas.
Then half an hour later when we were all up and about again, the bride started handing out cake slices, individually in serviettes. We just didn’t know where to put it, we were so full.
That doesn’t say whether to cake or not to cake but you could offer a choice of dessert? Maybe with the RSVP they could tick a box for their choice, or you could just have a cake and an alternative to hand and see who wants what.
If your FI is worried about sweetness, or types of cake you could have one made that is less sweet or one of those healthy cakes made with beetroot or something that still taste quite cakey.