To have a cake or not

posted 2 years ago in Food
Post # 2
1362 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Turf Valley

It is for your guests, too…  Just because he doesn’t eat something doesn’t mean you can’t have it for your guests to enjoy.

  • This reply was modified 2 years, 2 months ago by  LMD.
Post # 3
2007 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

made2behis1:  Is he against just cake, or all sweets?

Post # 4
2675 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI

Do you like cake? If you’re both against cake then maybe find something you can agree on for dessert. If you like and want a wedding cake then I think you should have one.

Post # 5
210 posts
Helper bee

I havent had cake at wedding in years! Most people have a cake but don’t even give it out because the venue gives your guests the dessert they make. My sisters cake was fake except for the top tier so they can take home, maybe you can do that, that way you aren’t spending a lot of money on cake. If your venue doesn’t offer dessert then you should have a real cake to give out. My SO doesn’t like cake either, that’s what we are going to do.

Post # 6
941 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

As a guest, I would be disappointed if there wasn’t wedding cake. That is one thing I always look forward to at weddings. 

Post # 7
6525 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

made2behis1:  sorry but his comment is ridiculous. Just because he doesn’t eat cake doesn’t mean your guests shouldn’t eat cake either. Have a wedding cake. If he doesn’t eat sweets, than he doesn’t have dessert! A wedding reception is not only for the bride and groom, but for the guests too. The bride and groom are the hosts of the reception, and the guests should be fed.

Post # 8
332 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: Davis Island Garden Club

Does he like any other desserts? I was at a recent wedding and they had cheese cake instead. I agre. With PPs, it’s about you guya but it’s about your guests too. They will be expecting dessert. 

Post # 9
2704 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

made2behis1:  What about you? Do you eat cake or any kind of sweets?

I agree it’s for guests too, and you don’t need to spend $500 on something you won’t eat yourself, or come up with an alternative. My cousin had a donut cake, my friend have a pie buffet and another friend had an ice cream bar.

We’re having a s’mores bar as well as a dessert buffet (but I LOVE baking, and LOVE sweets). You can do something more scaled down. I’m making most of our desserts, with the help of some faily members. That could be an option for you.

Post # 10
1202 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Tell us more about your wedding? I kind of agree that it’s ridiculous to spend 500$ on cake or cupcakes that you won’t enjoy, but if you’re having an evening reception with dinner I think guests will expect some form of dessert.  Even if that dessert doubled as a favour (box of truffles, cookies in cellophane, etc.).    

Post # 12
1067 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Like PP have mentioned, just because he doesn’t like it doesn’t mean your guests won’t enjoy it. My FI doesn’t drink, but there’s no way we wouldn’t serve alcohol.  I would honestly be dissapointed if there wasn’t cake or at least some kind of other dessert.

That being said, you don’t have to do a traditional cake.  You can do an ice cream bar, dessert bar,

or have multiple cakes in different flavors, which is what we’re planning on doing since FI loves strawberry cheesecake.

Post # 13
1355 posts
Bumble bee

made2behis1:  Cake isn’t for everyone, this is true, but you need SOMETHING at the wedding. The guests expect a little sugar.

I get that maybe you shouldn’t get a 6 tier cake. but perhaps a dessert table might accetable to him. I would just get a small tier for you to cut(if you were gonna do that) and then just have other desserts.

Normally I say its your do do whatever you want, but I really think you need some type of sweets there.

Post # 15
560 posts
Busy bee

made2behis1:  I attended a wedding where they served strawberries and ice cream for dessert.

I was wondering where the cake was and somewhat disappointed but open to new ideas. 

Then half an hour later when we were all up and about again, the bride started handing out cake slices, individually in serviettes. We just didn’t know where to put it, we were so full.

That doesn’t say whether to cake or not to cake but you could offer a choice of dessert? Maybe with the RSVP they could tick a box for their choice, or you could just have a cake and an alternative to hand and see who wants what.

If your FI is worried about sweetness, or types of cake you could have one made that is less sweet or one of those healthy cakes made with beetroot or something that still taste quite cakey.

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