Post # 1
Okay bees I need some advice. I was going to do a semi seating chart. Just telling people what table to go to, that way I know the tables are controlled. Let me explain, my family and the fiance’s family do not get along. And FI has three loud routy brothers. I was going to split them up to different tables so the tables would be “controlled” more or less. I know people will be getting up and moving, but at least this insures a semi quiet time.
I have NO clue what I am doing, and its turning out to be stressful. But at the same time, I am not too crazy on the idea of them walking in and having a free for all. I think I would be scared & unhappy if I walked in and had to walk around until I found a spot. But thats just me. The FI doesnt want to have a seating chart. He said everyone is going to sit where they want no matter what.
And heres another thought, I bought small boxes of Mike & Ike Berry Blues, (I work at a candy store and couldnt pass these up!) Plus they kinda help tie in the candy bar. I didnt buy enought for everyone. Just enough for every couple. Does that seam unfare? I dont want to put out 80-90 pf these boxes of candy! I was hoping one per couple would work. How do I add a person and their guest if not married? So & guest? Or party of So..
Urg. Girls I need help. Please!
Post # 3
im stumped on the seating chart thing too!! sorry i cant help…. but heres a bump!
Post # 4
I just asked the FI after rasing all this concern he says “idc, whatever” urg! no help!!
Post # 5
I think allocating tables at least limits the chances of people getting too rowdy or getting into arguments. Having said that, though, if people have their heart set on talking (or arguing), they will find a way.
Post # 7
I voted for assigned tables. When I go to a wedding I like to be told what table I am sitting at. I have only been to a few weddings where you could pick you table and it was complete chaos. You also run the risk of splitting up couples and social groups.
Post # 8
I would assign the tables. It will help the guests avoid confusion as to where to sit, and relieve some stress for you in the long run! In my experiences going to weddings people (for the most part) are good about sitting at tables they are assigned to until dinner is over.
Post # 9
I am doing a seating chart on a very smaller scale. I will have at least 4 tables “reserved” for bridal party (no head table bc I hate being split from my SO at weddings) and immediate family. These tables are priority seating so they will be able to see first dance, cake cutting, etc. with unobstructed views.
You may could get away with doing the same thing in putting his side that would cause a ruckus on one side and yours another and having a “neutral” table with extended family or friends in between. Still, like another poster mentioned, if people want to start something they will…..read Mrs. Socks posting about her day if you already haven’t. Sad how family sometimes can be the worst at such a happy occasion .
Post # 10
I feel like seating charts are sort of stuffy, it makes it seem as tho you’re trying to control the kind of time your guests can have. At our wedding we’re trying to create a fun mingling kind of vibe, I am a bit worried about certain people mixing with others, but in the end I’m sure it’ll be fine, especially beacuse we’re not having a sit down dinner. If Fiance’s crazy uncle corners my mother and she starts calling him George Lopez they should be able to get away from each other quite quickly. I would say trust your guests and let go of your anxiety about your fiance’s rowdy brother and family fueds. People will understand and respect that its your day and they should put that sort of stuff aside. Hopefully…
Post # 11
I like seating charts/assigned tables. Let them pick a seat at the actual table, though.
As for the candy, that’s adorable. Just print off labels that fit on the boxes with “Mr. & Mrs. Michael Smith” or “Ms. Jane Doe & Mr. John Smith” You can put table #’s or names on there, too so they know where to go. When you absolutely can’t get the name of the date of a guest you can do “Mr. John Doe & Guest” but try to get ahold of people and ask who they’re bringing. I had one person without a last name – oops. His bad for not answering txt messages, he can explain to his ‘date’ why she was the only one without a last name on the escort card.
Post # 12
I hate not having atleast assigned tables since there is always a family that has to split up because the seats werent in the right places for a family of 5 or 2 cousins left a seat between them because there not talking. We did a chalkboard for our seating chart and people loved it. What if you used your candies and somehow put the couples name on it and there table referance (number or name or whatever your doing) and have them all on a table where people can find out and bring there candy for them.
edit: there are so many smart people on here with the same great ideas lol.
Post # 13
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
Assign tables. It is so worth the headache now to not have to deal with problems day of, plus then you don’t have to provide extra sesting to accommodate for the fact that guests will not conveniently seat themselves 8 or 10 (or whatever your table size is) to a table.
I did mine in Excel by blocking off sets of cells matching the number of seats at a table in a rough approximation of the layout of our room and then blocking off guests into groups that had to and would be nice to seat together with notes on those to keep apart and I started dropping them into those cells until I had the arrangement that worked best.
Post # 14
I’m back and forth on this as well. My venue coordinator says it’s not necessary for the number of people we have and for a buffet dinner, I’m just worried about people being stuck at a table full of people they don’t know and having an awkward time. :-/ Also, even with assigned tables, I feel like it creates a more formal atmosphere than I’m going for otherwise. Gah, I don’t know! All I can say is, I feel your pain/confusion!
Post # 15
@TankGirl: Hey – I only had 37 guests and I assigned tables! I made sure people got to sit with their friends, family got to sit close to us, and our friends were close to the bar!
Post # 16
I just went to a wedding without assigned seating and yikes was it a mess! I had trouble finding space next to the people I actually knew at the wedding! I’ve started using http://www.socialtables.com for my guest list and seating and it has worked extremely well!