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im not having one.... i just think its more trouble than its worth. plus my wedding will be very casual and i hate to tell people where they have to sit. that being said i really think it depends on your guest list. :)
I don't care two figs about a seating chart. There's only x number of seats, and my guests are adults. They can figure it out.
Trust me, the table doesn't care who sits at it or who doesn't. Who cares if some tables don't have people sitting at them? If my guests want to put their elbows in the butter because they crammed 12 people into a 8 person table, that's on them, not me.
I'm not having one.. To me seating charts are for huge, super formal weddings. I realize thats not exactly how it is but thats how I vision it. If you want yours to be laid back or casual where everyone can mingle & have a good time I wouldn't worry about it.
We're only having escort cards with the table number. Our guests are so clashing that it just makes it a little easier.
I would have one. Though 75 may seem "small" or "casual", it's still a lot of people. I think it will make things go more smoothly because people will know where they need to go so they won't have to ask strangers if the seats at their table are taken, they won't be "squeezing" to make more room, and you can ensure everyone actually has a place to sit. I doubt the seating chart will take you that long, so it would be worth the hour to make sure your guests are comfortable and your reception is smooth.
i think its better not to have one so you dont have to have people sitting with people they dont want to or people they dont know. if my cousin doesnt want to sit next to his mom and wants to sit next to his aunt then cool...cuz ya know what we dont have a seating chart =)
I'm having one for my 100 person wedding. I don't want people to end up sitting with nobody they know because there's only one seat left at a table or anything like that. Also, I'm having pretty much an exact amount of chairs so that I don't have to waste money on extra centerpieces or chair sashes.
I think you should at least do table assignments. It will save a lot of confusion and also eliminate the too many people at one table, not enough people at another table, and only one seat available at each table type of situations. We are only having 24 guests and two tables, and I have assigned who sits where. I would have only assigned tables, but we have one child coming and their favor is different than the adult favors.
Do all your guests know each other very well? If so, let the guests figure it out.
If not (which is more likely at a wedding), please make your guests have to do less work. As a guest who has been in that situation -- PLEASE make table assignments! It's HORRIBLE and awkward to realize you and your date are the last at your table and have to find alternate tables with strangers. Our rehearsal dinner was 80 people and we assigned tables (not seats). Just make it as easy as possible on your guests.
How many extra seats will you have available?
We are having a smallish wedding too - inviting around 100 people. That's going to be really tight in our small venue, and we'll only just have enough seats. So we're doing a assigned tables, so that we don't end up with tables with just a few empty chairs, and then wind up with some people who don't get a seat because of that.
As someone who often goes alone to weddings and knows no one else there...I REALLY appreciate a seating chart 
I've been to weddings without seating charts, and it's just so awkward for me...
We're doing table assignments - I've been stuck on the awkward side of the no-where-to-sit mess before and don't want to do it to anyone else!
I'm having one for the purpose of making my guests feel comfortable. We have a lot of friends and family that may only know one or two people there. Also some friends that may not really know anyone there. We are strategically placing people so that they will be sitting with people they at least somewhat know and don't get stuck with like my fiance's drunk sister or something. I've been to a weddings before where I didn't know anyone and I wish they had a seating chart and put me with some younger people so it wasn't so awkward trying to find a table to sit at.
I did table assignments and I'm glad I did. I had several groups of friends/family and I wanted to make sure that people seated together had something in common, and I wanted to make sure that families or couples didn't end up seperated. I really think things went much more smoothly because I had the table assignments! :)
I, too, am tossing this idea around. Like @dodgercpkl: said, I want those seated at the same table to have something in common. Also, I have family members who don't like other family members and coworkers who don't like other coworkers. Not that they'll act like idiotic children, but I'd like to alleviate the "wow. two seats left and it's next to THEM?!" factor.
We did table assignments because I have been at weddings where there is no table assignment and it is awkward! Especially if you dont know very many people. Many times there is that one (or few) couples who knows the bride and groom but does not know anyone else. If there are no table assignments it is a very uncomfortable situation to be in. You want your guests to feel totally comfortable and not have to do any work - this is why table assignments are perfect. You can take the time to create a well thought out arrangment for people. I paired people who I knew would get along well or had something in common. I also kept people separate that I knew would not get along. It worked out really well. Its only for dinner too - people can move around to a different seat throughout the night.
As a guest it is way easier when there is a seating chart. At least assign tables. I hate having to rush into the reception venue to try to find a good seat.
Thanks for all the great insight ladies. I do believe we will establish table numbers now to avoid the confusion and keep the guests happy! Plus now it's just an excuse for me to do another DIY project!!!
pppssssht. I've been waiting for years to tell my family where to go... I mean um where to sit. hehe jk
We are not having one, we have extra seating for about 20 extra people. I figure I always see some tables with only one chair available but a couple needs to sit so, hopefully all tables will have a few people at them, also I think seating charts just cause extra stress.
I've had half the people I talked to tell me they liked assigned seating and half who tell me they like to have a choice in their seating. I think it really depends on the people invited. Everyone has their own preference, maybe figure out what works best for your group. Still don't know what we are doing!
We are just going to assign tables, I think it's going to be easier that way. But we have 200 guests and some are coming in from out of the country and there'll be a language issue, I don't want those guests to be uncomfortable or not be able to talk to anyone they're sitting with.
Please please please at least assign tables, I went to a wedding today, and I LOVE the bride and get that she wanted a "laid back and mingle" wedding, but it was just chaos. Tons of people ended up standing because there were only a seat or two here and there together, and for someone like me who only knew about 3 other people, mingling isn't my thing. It was really awkward, I didn't have anywhere to leave my jacket or purse, so I ended up kinda carrying it around, while juggling a plate of food and a cup of water, and I wasn't the only one doing that.
People who enjoy mingling, will mingle regardless of their table assignment. People (like myself) who would rather walk on a bed of nails than be forced to try to talk to people she doesn't know, REALLY like having that little "home base" to rely on.
I am not doing it. I will designate who will sit at the bigger round tables near the front, but figure the rest of our guests are adults and can seat themselves. (I'm a teacher and have to do seating plans for my students.) :)
I think it's a bad idea not to have a seating chart...
Imagine a family of 4 being torn apart because the tables only have 1-2 seats available.
Or a table full of friends who know each other, and along comes a single person sitting among them because other tables were full. This can be extremely uncomfortable to people.
Even worse, imagine an older couple sitting with rowdy college kids. :D
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I am having a small reception, our guest maximum depending on how many RSVPs we get back is 75 people. We're having an afternoon wedding and reception will start at 2:00 pm. Appetizers and light lunch will be served. It will be casual dining where trays will be set out and everyone can kind of nibble on what they want, followed by wedding cake.
My big question is should we assign seats and tables? I have this horrible vision in my head of people just sort of shuffling around and some tabled naked, and others crammed with people because no one wants to sit next to someone they don't know.
What do you ladies think?