Post # 1
Ok so I am a new Bee and I thought my first post should be about something that has been heavily weighing on my mind lately!
SEATING CHARTS! AHHHHH!
It looks like we will be having 100-120 people at the wedding so far and well I’m not sure what to do about seating. It seems to be that most weddings have a seating chart in order to ensure organization and comfort for your guests. Believe you me I am all about the organization, down to making sure every t is crossed and i dotted.
However organized I am it seems like a daunting task to put together a seating chart which then is closely followed by escort cards, table numbers, and directions…more $$$ and more of my time to put together. (I’m doing most of the wedding in true DIY fashion)
So Brides past and present I want to ask what is your opinion on seating arrangements? If you’ve already had your wedding and done seating one way would you keep it the same or take it in a completely different direction if you had it to do over again?
Thanks for all who reply! Happy buzzing!
Post # 3
with a 120 people….YOU BETTER HAVE ONE!!!! omg imagine the choas of trying to find your seat!
it would be like a sick game of musical chairs lol
Post # 4
We were expecting around 80 guests and I made a seating chart… I didn’t make escort cards though…
Just did the seating chart and of course table numbers. Everyone easily found where to go and all seemed happy at who they were sitting with.
I initially really worried about how to place people (esp since we have some family that don’t get along well with others) BUT it only took about 30 minutes for me to get everyone sorted on who sat where and with who =)
Post # 5
Well, if you ask my FMIL, she would say no, because she might not know/like the people she sits with. (Happened at a wedding last May.)
But I went to a wedding in July with no seating chart, and FI and I sat by ourselves at a table because we were the last people into the room, and all the seats were taken at all the other tables. So that really sucked.
Post # 6
You and I will have just about the same number of guests and I would highly recommend some type of seating plan.
I am not going to assign each guest a seat however I am assigning guests to a table and will have a large vintage type window with the table number and names listed underneath.
Post # 7
Wait by seating chart do you mean A) chart where it lists table numbers and who sits where in liu of escort cards.
or B) Chart with layout of venue where it shows the positions of the tables with their number on them, so that when people get their escort cards they know which direction to head in?
I’m having 100-120 as well but I was just going to do escort cards lined up on a table alphabetically by last name.
I’m not assigning seats, just tables. “You 8, you sit at table 3, after that you’re on your own”.
Post # 8
Do it!! It it sooooo worth it!
Post # 9
We had 150 people and assigned seating. We opted for escort cards instead of a chart. Honestly I don’t know why everyone makes such a huge deal about doing this because it was not time consuming at all.
Most of the guest fit naturally into place. There were only a handful that we really had to play around with to find the right seat. And as for the escort cards themselves, it wass just a fun project DH and I tackled a few nights while watching tv.
Post # 10
i hate going to functions where there are no seating charts, reminds me of highschool formals where everyone is jockeying for a seat with their buddies and no one ever mingles with people they dont know and there are always some people that look like they have no friends as they are sitting on their own.
Post # 11
I was thinking the same thing, OP. We’ll have about 130 guests and I don’t have as much of a problem organizing them (The Knot has a seating chart generator, haven’t tried it yet but it looks fun), but I’m afraid people will be stuck next to someone they don’t know or like. It happens to me a lot at weddings- I’m not sitting by the people I want to talk to, and I’m often seated with people I don’t know at all or don’t talk to very often.
Post # 12
First: as the biggest Sox fan ever, your screen name/icon is the BEST.
As to your question: yes, do the seating chart. You will have chaos that can only lead to a delay in your entire wedding timeline if you don’t have one, and your guests won’t thank you for that. It’s a matter of practicality in organizing a wedding of that size (we’re expecting 85 and will definitely have a seating arrangement). Also, seating charts are a matter of courtesy that allows guests to feel comfortable and secure that they have a place of their own at your event — sort of a “home base” from which they can get up to dance, get a drink, find the restrooms, etc. and still know where their spouse/child/friend is likely to be.
If escort cards aren’t your thing, you can do what we’re doing and make up one board with your guests’ names listed alphabetically followed by their table name/number. You don’t have to seat them chair-by-chair, since people tend to move around at the table anyway, but table assignments are a must. Using a board eliminates the escort cards, but you still need to name/number the tables.
Also, will you have a buffet or plated meal? If you have a plated meal with options (i.e. meat or fish or veggie) your venue will likely require that you assign tables — or even seats — in order to serve the correct meal.
One last thought: I *completely* sympathize with you about the painfully frustrating process of arranging all of this. I’m in the process of arranging potential tables now, and it isn’t the most fun. But it’s necessary, and I’m confident it will make the day easier and guests happier in the end. Best of luck!
Post # 13
We didn’t have much trouble at all assigning guests to tables. It us about an hours to have the first draft of placements done.
For those doing a seating chart, how are you reminding your guests which entree they served? I know with escort cards, people put a little sticker or mark on the back of the card…