Post # 1
Okay so here is my situation… My fiance and I were trying to figure out how to have a inexpensive wedding while still making it a beautiful one as we would be paying for it all ourselves. We found a nice country club with a beautiful lake so we would be married outside and then have the reception inside the club house. I have not put the deposit down yet as elopeing is starting to sound better to me. Reason being, my family is somewhat scattered alot of my family has problems with each other and to top it all off my parents are divorced, they have been for 5 years. I was talking to my dad the other day and he said if my mom was going to the wedding with her boyfriend he would not come!!? Talk about a slap in the face I am his only daughter out of 6 children and he would seriously not walk me down the isle because he can’t get over his feelings for one day! I am pretty hurt by that and with that being said I am truly considering not having a wedding at all and saving all this moeny I would be spending to have a reception for everyone who wouldn’t even want to be there because they can’t get along. I have already bought a dress which is very simple for an outdoor wedding so I still want to wear my dress but I don’t really know where we could get married at without a reception? Any thoughts on this…. I’m really kinda stressing out about it all. Did anyone have a simple wedding with just the two of you? any regrets?
Post # 3
I think if you both want to have a small ceremony, you should go for it!
Have you considered getting married at the Justice of the Peace? You could always elope to Vegas to Florida if you’re feeling adventurous. Here’s a list of good places to elope to if you want to travel.
Post # 4
By all means have a simple wedding with just the two of you, but I wouldn’t do it just because your father is putting his selfish needs before yours. You are entitled to have a wonderful day and I’m sure many would enjoy sharing it with you.
Try not to allow your father’s behavior take away your happiness during this exciting time!
Post # 5
Honestly, you shouldn’t do anything that is causing you unnecessary stress. If you’re fine with eloping, do it! While I’m not eloping, I sure wish I were! And if you have already bought your dress, go ahead and wear it! Maybe find a nice garden or park in the area, and get a justice of the peace or other officiant and just having your wedding. Some friends of mine recently did that. They had a photographer, an officiant and had their wedding. And honestly, I’m 5 months away from my “big wedding” and the only thing I think of every day is how much I regret not eloping. And unfortunately my FI doesn’t want to call off the “big wedding” because we already put down a $2k deposit on the venue and he told all his family/friends about it 🙁
Post # 6
I got married in the drive thru in Vegas almost 15 years ago. That is exactly what I wanted (and yes there was a whole lot of family drama that turned me off from ANY celebration). I have no regrets at all BUT I never asked HIM and just last year he informed me that for our 15th anniversary he wanted the wedding/vow renewal/party we never had. In all this time I had never comtemplated that maybe a guy would have the dream of a big wedding. Sooo my advise would be to make absolute sure HE feels the same way you do(wedding or no wedding party). I have never been a big event kind of girl. I really think its a big waste of money but its not just about me. Good Luck!