(Closed) To have a wedding party or not, that is the question?

posted 7 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
1036 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Are you struggling because neither of you have siblings, and your group of friends don’t feel close enough to you to play that important role on your day?  We went for just a small group, and only those very close to us (my sis, his sis, his Boyfriend or Best Friend from grade school who he still talks to three times a day, and my (by biology, his by love) teenage son).

Traditionally the bridal party funds their own attire, so I wouldn’t make the decision based solely on $$’s.  I like the idea of your parents standing up with you if you want only people beside you that have known you forever, truly know who you are, and love you unconditionally.  I think those factors are the most important in choosing the bridal party.

Post # 4
89 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I opted for no wedding party.  My close friends that would have been apart of my wedding party live 5 hours away so they wouldnt have been much help to me.  I’m including them by having them do a reading instead.  For us, it was just eaiser not to have to worry about bridemaids and groomsmens.  On our programs under the wedding party section we are just printing our parents names.  We are on a small budget too so not having to get gifts for the wedding party is a plus also.  

I think the idea of having your parents stand up there with you is really sweet.  

Post # 5
5096 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I think that could be a very sweet idea!  You also don’t have to have one at all, if you don’t want to. We’re not.

Post # 6
1636 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

if you are both close to your parents… why not, I think its sweet:)


Post # 7
99 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I think this is a great idea! I only have one maid of honor with no bridesmaids and my Fiance has his bro as the Best man. We have a low budget wedding too, I say go for it! it’ll be awesome! I kind of wish I took this route since my maid of honor doesn’t live in the same city and all my other options live far away and they would not really help me with wedding prep anyway. Smile

Best of luck!

Post # 8
780 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

We opted for no wedding party.  Every single person at our wedding will be a guest.  No pressure for anyone to have to do anything. 

Post # 9
29 posts
  • Wedding: July 2011

We are not having a wedding party. Both my fiance have been in a ton of weddings. We have large groups of people we’ve been friends with forever, and everyone’s had 10 or so on each side. We just didn’t want to deal with that, and we didn’t want our friends to have to spend money on outfits, hair etc.

It also has saved us money with our photog b/c he only has to shoot us and family, we also don’t have to pay for transportation for a ton of people and we won’t have to pay for gifts or bouquets.

Post # 11
1315 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Over here the bride and groom pay for the clothes for the bridal party, as well as hair and make up on the day (ladies only), and usually a small gift as well. I’m wishing we’d been brave enough to say No Bridal Party ! We’d be easily a thousand euro better off if we had. Ah well…

Post # 12
809 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I think that would be sweet… Honestly We first thought we didnt want a wedding party … (partly to save money) Which they do pay for their own dresses and such we still provided bouquets bouts … gifts.. as well as bought each groomsmen and matching tie.. and each bridesmaid a matching Hairflower

I also gave all 3 of my groomsmen a free haircut right before the wedding ( i am a hairdresser)And I did 2 of my wedding parties hair as well as my mothers and my daughters and 2 peoples makeup the day OF my wedding. Which by the way it was not prearranged with me that I would do this except for my mom and my young daughter. They just assumed since I do hair all the time I wouldnt mind at all (PFFT I paid someone else to Do My own mani pedi and makeup and hair) because I didnt want the stress of doing it myself

And honestly I love my friends and his brothers but they were the most worthless bunch of people ever! We barely got them to do what they were suppose to do at the wedding … and they didnt help at all with setting up Nor any DIY project !

If i had to do it over again I would have picked NO wedding party ! I would have only had my daughter as our wedding party and she would have held my boquet and brought us our rings

Post # 13
3316 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

In a Jewish ceremony, it is traditional for both of the groom’s parents to escort him, and both of the bride’s parents to escort her, and for both sets of parents to stand up there with the bride and groom.  If there is a wedding party, they stand farther away from the bride and groom than  the parents.  You could do something similar.  The parents could easily handle the minor tasks traditionally given to the wedding party–fluffing the bride’s train, holding her bouquet during the ring ceremony, etc.

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