- 5 years ago
My FI proposed back in August, and due to military issues we decided to get married quickly, and did so October 27th this year. It was hosted at my friends house, we had some food, my mom/sister/my kids were there, and some other close friends. I bought a cute dress (grey lace) from Macy’s, and had some killer shoes, and my sister and I got our makeup done together at MAC. It was a small elopement type of thing. i was so incredibly happy.
Well, we’ve planned a big wedding for next july, and I am just now starting to really research and put down deposits, but I keep stalling. The thing is, my husband is off in Kansas, and I’m in WA state. He had to PCS there last minute, and i stayed behind with the kids till school is over. So we are moving there with him next july after the wedding and honeymoon.
But in the next 7 months…I have to pack up our house, find a renter for our home, plan a wedding and leave the state that I’ve called home for my whole adult life. the topic that keeps coming up while planning is ‘UGH I don’t want to do this”. And I really am doing it ALL by myself, because my family all lives in Canada, and my friends are busy too. If my husband was here, I wouldn’t be as stressed, but that’s a whole hell of a lot for one person to do all by herself, don’t you think? Plus, we have four kids that I have to take care of as well.
Everyone I’ve talked to has said I will regret not having a “proper” wedding. I’ve already bought my dress though, and I feel silly wasting that money. I don’t know how I’m supposed to do it all in 7 months, almost all by myself…in the month of july next year I’m going to have a wedding, go on a honeymoon, pack up my house, and move to Kansas. All within a few weeks.
I love my husband dearly, and I don’t feel like I have to have a huge wedding now. Plus, all of my extended family too lives up in Canada as well, and they don’t particularly want to come because we “live in another country”…I’m only 3.5 hours south of them.
Anyway, I’m just so torn on what to do, I really don’t know at all. I don’t want to plan this all by myself, and it makes me sick to think of the money we’d be spending just for one day. If we skip the wedding, we can still go on our honeymoon and then move…saving ourselves a TON of money. But will I regret not having a wedding? The man says we can always do a vow renewal too…
Ugh. I’m so torn, but so stressed out about it that I cried on the phone with him this morning.