to have bridesmaids or not?

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: To have Bridesmaids or not?
    Yes : (3 votes)
    17 %
    No : (15 votes)
    83 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    1148 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    You could have them be junior bridesmaids. But there’s nothing that says you have to have BMs either. Your brother could stand up with you (kind of like in that movie Made of Honor), and you could include the neices in another way.

    Post # 4
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    3442 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    I would say no.

    To be honest it is just more of a hassle, especially if you don’t have people that would be offended if they weren’t asked to be in “the bridal party.”

    As much as I love my best friends and want them there on the day-of, I could have done without bridesmaids because it is definitely more of a hassle to deal with outfits, and their budgets, and who will stand where, and who will do what for the pictures.

    Seriously, people on the bee might try to talk you into having a bridal party, but if you are as laid back as me (which is sounds like you are) then you will definitely be happier & less stressed without bridesmaids.

    Post # 5
    Member
    855 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2008

    @mallo:  4 and 6 are too young to be bridesmaids, IMO. I say no.

    Post # 6
    Member
    918 posts
    Busy bee

    I don’t think you need to ask anyone else to be a bridesmaid, but it would be nice to have the nieces as flower girls.  It doesn’t have to be a big, stressful thing – just put them in pretty dresses and have them walk down the aisle before you (if you’re walking down an aisle).  Once they get to the front of the aisle they could even just go and sit down with their parents.  At that age, they don’t have a firm grasp on what flower girls are “supposed” to do (hell, I don’t have a firm grasp on what flower girls are supposed to do), so just having the chance to dress up and be a little bit involved will be enough for them.

    Post # 8
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    855 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2008

    @mallo:  Are you in Europe? I’ve heard in Europe they use children, but BM’s the way I think of them are adults or at least older teens

    Post # 10
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    855 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2008

    @mallo:  Well if that’s the case… if you’d like them to be a part, go for it. However, it certainly wouldn’t be necessary and as young as they are, I doubt they’ll be upset if they’re not in the wedding.

    Post # 11
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    4568 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    @mallo:  you know im regreting having 6 BM. i should have just went with a smaller bridal party of 4 or 3 really its more of a pain (for me anyways) then anything else. the dresses the fittings, i dont like this color what about this dress? finally i picked the dress the colors and said thats what it is ladies. i got lucky caz they all love both. but if i had the choice i would not have done it with so many of them.

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