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I have to decide if I want to do a rhinoplasty before my wedding by the end of this week. My nose has always bothered me. It looks fine from the front, but as an adult I realize really how crooked it is. When I smile, it looks very long and pointy. I like everything else about my face, and I sometimes think that I could be so much prettier if I just fixed my shnoz (sorry if that makes me shallow).
However, it doesn't stop at the nose. The MAIN reason that I want a rhinoplasty is because I have an unusually high forehead. I am extremely, extremely, extremely self conscious about this. I wear bangs and comb them over. I hate when wind blows my hair out of my face- I seriously feel naked. I hate swimming. I hate going to the beach (I always wear a hat). I hate working out and getting sweaty because my bangs move and my ginormous forehead comes out.
So I feel that a crooked nose and a big forehead are double whammys. Since I can't fix a forehead, I think that I would feel much, much better with a smaller nose. There are lots of celebs with big foreheads but small noses- like Tyra Banks, Nicole Kidman, Kristen Chenowith (sp?), etc. Imagine those women with crooked noses! There would be a big difference in their appearance.
I'm really nervous about the possibility of this surgery, but it's something I want to do. Not a matter of if, but when. So my wedding is coming up. Do I have this surgery before the wedding, or after?
If I get it before, I'm scared people will make comments. But I'd like to not be self concious about my profile on my wedding day. Because I'd seriously tell the photogs to avoid my profile. I always smooth the bump out of all my pics on photoshop, btw. Or, I can wait to have the surgery, although I just want to get it over with!
Thoughts?
after i dont know what the recovery time is but if u got pre wedding parties like bridal showers and bacholete parties to go to u may have swollen face in those photos..
If it's something you for sure plan on doing in the future, I think before your wedding. You'll have these pictures forever.
I think if you're going to do it anyway, why not before your wedding?
Well, I'd have a cast on for a week... and swelling goes down after a few months I think... I mean, even if it is a little swollen, i think it's better than what I have now lol.
Ahh! I'm so scared of surgery. Has anyone had this done? PM me if you don't want to go public lol.
If you absolutely know you want to do it- do it now! While I haven't had any plastic surgery before I have been through surgery- it isn't that bad, I would suggest getting a valium for before because you will be nervous and that is normal.
I have always wanted a nose job, I don't know if I'll ever get around to it because I'm always making excuses.
I haven't ever had plastic surgery, but I've always heard that nose jobs are one of the most painful surgeries to recover from. I'm really not trying to scare you, I just want you to be the most informed you can possibly be before making such a big life decision.
If you feel like it is something you need to do, then I say go for it! None of us have to live your life - you do - and if it's what makes YOU happy, that's all that matters!
How does your fiance feel about this? Just curious!
Best of luck in whatever you decide!! :) :)
I wish I could have done it before my wedding. If money wasnt an object, I would do it in a flash
I had plastic surgery- reconstruction from breast cancer and knowing everything I know now, I encourage people to never wait another minute if it will make you happy. Do it! You should be fine by the time of your wedding but I would discuss your date with your doctor to go over anything complications that might take longer just to make sure. Good luck and I hope it goes well!
Thanks sooo much for all the info and encouragement. My FI is extremely supportive...
I wonder how long I'd be out of it? I could use a week off to organize my projects and get some solid DIY in. Think I could get to that stuff after a few days of bed rest?
Ill also check out that link- thank you!
My DH has had 3 rhinoplasties and I am getting one to fix a broken nose. I have spoken to most of the plastic surgeons in town and they all have told me that for full complete recovery and complete swelling to go down, it takes a year. Not just the you can go out and no one can tell recovery, but the final how you will look recovery. DH said that is just about right, which is why I intentionally have waited to get mine.
DH has tried very hard to talk me out of it as have several friend who have had it done. They all say if they wouldn't have had to have them done, they would not have done them. DH even goes as far as saying that he would rather take antibiotics the rest of his life rather than ever have one again, alittle melodramatic, but I am not sure he is kidding. I am going to do it anyway, I am tired of not being able to breath and of the sinus infections it has caused me.
Surgery time off can be a few days to a few months, I've never had my nose done, but sometimes your doctor will work with you on the time off. I'm in California and disability doesn't kick in until you have been off for 7 days, something to think about. I'm not sure how disability works for elective surgery either. I recommend taking off more time than less time, it is much easier to go back to work early than it is to extend your return date. Plus if you come back early bosses take it as good work ethic, extending time can be seen as the opposite by bosses and coworkers. Even for some of my cancer treatments people were really rude about extensions, like I could help it!
Before I could adviseyou, I would need to know how long you have between now and your wedding day. If you are getting married in a year, I would say that you should have the surgery now. If you are getting married in 6 weeks, don't do it! You need to give yourself time so that if the final result isn't quite right, you have time to sort the problem out!
You have time for recovery. It's not gonna stay swollen the entire time. The worst part will be the first week, then the swelling will diminish.
The only advice I can give is to Research! Really research your options/ surgeons, the recovery (so you can know what expect), and also be sure to follow your post-op instructions to a tee <----very important. Good luck :)
It can take up to a yr to fully heal so I would wait until after the wedding
The only thing I would add in to what the pps have said is that you have to consider any complications that may arise in the healing time. A textbook case may have ample time to heal before July but if anything out of the ordinary happens it could set back your recovery or even require further surgery to correct.
I truly believe in plastic surgery. It's who you are inside that counts and if your nose (or whatever) is not letting that real person get through, then you should fix it.
I'm not a fan of plastic surgery to become someone else though.
I'd say go for it, but make sure you have enough healing time before the wedding. Also, isn't there usually a wait to have this procedure done? If not, go for it now and heal up before the big day.
if it's really what you want to do, absolutely get it done before your wedding... and do it ASAP!! July is so soon!
best of luck :)
I just had a droopy eyelid fixed a week ago today and i am so pleased... its still a lottle swollen and tender but i know when i can start to wear makeup again,., i will be a whole new person
I had it done the summer after my senior year of high school. My nose always bothered me - it was quite large - and every time I met someone all I could think of was how they were looking at my nose. I am SO happy I did it when I did. It really made a huge difference in how I felt about myself. The recovery was not a big deal. But totally agree on researching doctors very well and making sure you like the aesthetic they go for - you still want your nose to "fit" your face when you are all done!
My mother saved up for her own nose job when she was in her early 20's (back in the mid-70's.) When she went into the surgeon's office he said that she had "such a pretty face, with the wrong nose!" She got a nose job and it was the best decision she ever made. She's not a shallow individual. It's a problem that really bothered her so she took charge and it made such a significant difference in the way she felt about herself. To this day her nose still looks phenomenal and you would never guess it wasn't her natural nose...fits her face perfectly!
If you are going to do it, I would do it soon. I really don't know the details about nose job recovery, but I broke my nose twice as a kid. If I remember correctly, it really wasn't swollen for too long after the surgeries - and I didn't bruise which was great. But I was like 8 and 12 - I assume I was healing pretty fast back then. I guess you could cover up light bruising with airbrush makeup, but.... eh no one wants to be black and blue in their wedding pics.
If it were me... I'd probably be too nervous. But when something really bothers you it can totally change your perception of the risk. I've been sort of worried about getting botox (or something, I haven't done much research on the topic yet because wedding planning takes up so much time!) in between my eyebrows... I totally photoshop the line out of my pics too (I actually mentioned this to my photog and she said she would only do it on the pics I am getting blown up - which totally annoys me... I don't want pics of my furrow line all over her blog etc.). I'm just nervous about doing something stupid and being stuck with those pics forever.
I have a friend who finds big foreheads very attractive. He thinks that they make a girl look smart. So every time you worry about your forehead, try to remember my friend who would think you are smoking hot!
It sounds like you're going to do this anyway, so why not now? Good luck!
@Lemma: LOL I totally will! Omg, so funny.
Alright bees, I decided I'M GOING TO DO IT!!!!!!!!!!!!
If, I can get the time off of work. This means I have to do it in the next few weeks. Now or never, gotta take the plunge. I do trust the DR- he's considered one of the best.
You all had very great, insightful feedback. Thank you. My friend and sister also said that I wouldn't regret it, but wished I had done it sooner. I think I agree.
I'll keep you updated!
My cousin had hers done two months before she was a BM in my sisters wedding. She looked gorgeous, and you couldn't tell she'd had major surgery, at all. No bruising or noticeable swelling, either. She looked like herself, but with a prettier nose she was much more confident about. My mom had hers done (in the late 70s), she's also gorgeous, and her new nose just goes with the rest of her features nicely. Both are happy they had the surgery, and don't regret having it done. As long as you've already decided to do it, and are realistic about the healing process, why not get it done ASAP?
did you know you can get a big forehead fixed? It's called "hairline lowering surgery". I once looked it up because I was curious, but I don't think I would ever do it.
I myself have been getting treatments from the dermatologist for acne and have been getting chemical peels. Plastic surgery is a bit more drastic. Just do your research and weigh out the pros and cons and do what makes YOU happy!
@janie-janie: I did see that- I talked to the doc about it and he said its not worth the risk of scarring and that my forehead is within the average size.... But maybe one day I'll get more opinions.
I had my nose done a few years ago. It was $$ well spent. Recovery was not bad at all. Congratulations on taking a huge step towards taking care of you!!
@peanuthead: Awww thanks! I'm finally actually doing something about it instead of wishing. :)
I am not a believer in plastic surgery but I would say AFTER your wedding. I have worked in the past as a WOCN (wound care nurse) and you can never predict what is going to happen in or after surgery. Worst case scenario, it looks worse after surgery and you end up regretting it.
Well since you are going to do it already, I say goodluck!!!
I'm sure you have weighed the pros and cons, and all of the complications that might arise.
It took a full year for my boobs to settle down after my surgery, BUT they looked amazing (and stopped hurting full-time) after about 3-4 months. I think if you want to do it, you should. But be prepared just in case something goes awry.
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