Post # 1
I need some advice, particularily from those Bees living in Canada…
I am getting married in a months time and need to figure out how to handle the last name situtation. I definitely want to assume his last name but keep mine as well. I understand that in Canada, to use my maiden name as a second middle name would be considered a “legal” name change and I really don’t want to do that. I have the option of hyphenating but from what some people say, that can get complicated in a lot of databases and them I wonder if I could still just use his last name socially. Does anybody know if I can have two last names in Canada WITHOUT hypenating? Is this an easier open? That way I wonder if I can just use his name socially, or when signing things that are not legal documents.
Any insight or advice would be much appreciated.
Post # 3
I’m in the US, not Canada, but I have two last names without a hyphen.
I will leave it to the Canadian bees to talk about the legal points that are relevant to you, but socially I really like the flexibility. It also brings along some challenges. People often do hyphenate my name by default (I only bother to correct them if it will create issues down the road, i.e. if it’s a grocery store circular I don’t care, but if it’s something that might show up on my credit report, I point out that it should be a space, not a hyphen).
In conversations, people sometimes omit the second part of my last name (but I think that often happens to fairly recently-married women even when they take their husband’s names and drop their maiden names). It doesn’t really bother me, though – that’s still my name and I’m used to it! And when they call me by just his last name, I’m fine with that too. It tends to play out differently in different spheres (i.e. at work people are more likely to use just my name; our friends outside of work are more likely to call me just by his.)