- 4 years ago
- Wedding: December 2013
Hello!! I am a new member but have been lurking on the boards for a while now and i thought this would be the best place to come for advice 🙂 Here is the backstory on my and my FI (keeping it short and sweet!!)
My FI and I dated back in 2002 for almost a year. Due to some events, we broke up but always kept in touch thinking about what could of and should of been. He started a family and married the girl thinking it was the right thing to do. I went and married a guy whom I dated for 3 years. I was young and accepted the proposal because I thought (of course) it was the right thing to do.
Fast forward 4 years later, I got pregnant but needed a D&C done. Needless to say, my husband was not there for me during the procedure or after for support. I was told through the grapevine he didnt want a family etc. I felt alone so I moved back home. At this time, I got a message saying his marriage was over, she walked out and never looked back. We got back together and I moved in. Things have been great ever since and I wouldnt change these last few years for anything!
We plan on getting married but I am having some issues. First of all, I cannot stand his mom. She is very two-faced and is known as the “local newspaper.” She keeps in touch with his ex just to be nosey. We have never really gotten along, other than her being nice to me just to get “information” out of me. I am not crazy about his moms side of the family but I love and adore his fathers side (his parents have been divorced 20+ years).
My mom is still “stuck” with this image in her head that I should be back with my ex husband and cannot accept the fact that he didnt want the things I wanted in life. She thinks he is a wonderful person and I should have never divorced him. My mom likes my current FI but doesnt want me to marry him due to his ex wife & mom drama.
I love this man more than I have ever loved anyone I’ve ever dated and cant stand the thought of losing/being without him. My question is, should we have a small wedding with our close supportive friends and nix the idea of having family members there? I know it would be throwing “fuel on a fire” if his mom’s side of the family is not invited as he is the only child of his moms and my mom would be livid if we get married without my family present. Im so confused!! I feel as if no-one supports us so why should they be invited?? Bees please help 🙁