To invite or not….

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
3951 posts
Honey bee

I second the idea, of a “big, fat no!”

Post # 3
6935 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

if she says bad things about you and your FI, why would you even want to invite her?  ignore the comments.

Post # 4
1913 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Dallas, TX

Your wedding, your call. Friends don’t get to decide who is invited to your wedding. I would not invite her.

Post # 5
600 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

Nope. Don’t do it. You want to be comfortable on YOUR day.

Post # 6
6581 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

jencala:  its none of anyone’s business who you invite. Just because they are friends with her, doesn’t mean you should invite her. You are no obligated to invite anyone who has made you feel badly. 

So I agree with you, she is a big-fat-NO!

Post # 7
1960 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

jencala:  nope! do not invite.

Post # 9
7910 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

If you and your FI are not friends with her why is this even up for discussion? 

Post # 10
2341 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

If you aren’t friends with her anymore I wouldn’t invite her.  It isn’t a 6 year old birthday party where you have to invite everyone to not hurt feelings.  If her feelings are hurt that is her problem.  

Post # 11
1283 posts
Bumble bee

I need help understanding why you have to justify the decisions you and your FI make to your friends. I’m mystified. If they bring it up again, have your FI respond that the answer is no, and no further discussion about it will be entertained, and move on. If they feel she needs to be at a wedding, invite them to host their own and invite her to that.

Post # 13
99 posts
Worker bee

i wouldn’t invite 🙂

Post # 14
1397 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2015 - Chapel on Base

Big FAT NO!!!  Why stand a chance of something negative happening on your special day?

Post # 15
1328 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2015


You guys should stop discussing your guest list abd other wedding details with them. If they inquire, tell them you havent made any decisions.

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