Post # 1
My soon to be hubby has an old female friend that has during our entire relationship caused problems by talking crap about me… And him as well… This has caused him to not to be friends with her really at all anymore. she apparently keeps inquiring to mutual friends about the wedding and saying how she hasn’t been invited. The question is these friends keep bringing up that we should invite her anyway… Honestly to me it’s a big fat no.. i want ppl at our wedding that support our relationship not hate on it, but am I wrong ?
Post # 2
I second the idea, of a “big, fat no!”
Post # 3
if she says bad things about you and your FI, why would you even want to invite her? ignore the comments.
Post # 4
- Wedding: September 2014 - Dallas, TX
Your wedding, your call. Friends don’t get to decide who is invited to your wedding. I would not invite her.
Post # 5
Nope. Don’t do it. You want to be comfortable on YOUR day.
Post # 6
jencala: its none of anyone’s business who you invite. Just because they are friends with her, doesn’t mean you should invite her. You are no obligated to invite anyone who has made you feel badly.
So I agree with you, she is a big-fat-NO!
Post # 7
jencala: nope! do not invite.
Post # 8
Yes, Thanks everyone…that’s exactly how I feel .. but on the other hand the mutual friends try and make me feel guilty, make it seem like I’m coming between my Fi and his friends.. My Fi says he doesn’t want her there either. Its almost like these friends aren’t very happy that he’s getting married.. apparently they feel like I’m taking him away or something. Lol I feel like I’m dealing with a bunch of emotional teenagers.
Post # 9
If you and your FI are not friends with her why is this even up for discussion?
Post # 10
If you aren’t friends with her anymore I wouldn’t invite her. It isn’t a 6 year old birthday party where you have to invite everyone to not hurt feelings. If her feelings are hurt that is her problem.
Post # 11
I need help understanding why you have to justify the decisions you and your FI make to your friends. I’m mystified. If they bring it up again, have your FI respond that the answer is no, and no further discussion about it will be entertained, and move on. If they feel she needs to be at a wedding, invite them to host their own and invite her to that.
Post # 12
Xu: that’s exactly what happened yesterday, my Fi told his friend (a groom’s men) it’s not going to happen stop bringing it up. It lead to an argument… It’s completely ridiculous. I know our decision to not invite her is correct. I just needed confirmation.
Post # 14
- Wedding: February 2015 - Chapel on Base
Big FAT NO!!! Why stand a chance of something negative happening on your special day?
Post # 15
You guys should stop discussing your guest list abd other wedding details with them. If they inquire, tell them you havent made any decisions.