- 6 years ago
- Wedding: November 1999
Hello Ladies! Should I invite my sister? Here’s some more details we are step sisters (our parents are divorced but we knew each other before they met). She has been competitve with me since I became an adult in her eyes around when I turned 19 and it got worse each year. I avoid her as much as possible now so things aren’t so bad.
She has a teenage daughter that looks up to me and that wants to attend my wedding and I would not dare invite her and not her mother. I will not be torn if my niece is not there. Our ceremony is mainly for cultural and religious reasons. My step sis is not of the same background as me(I think that part might not matter)
My sis is recently married. She was insecure and angry that I was engaged, two of her kid’s fathers got married and our other sis is married…ahe kinda pressured her then boyfriend to marry her… I’m adding all of this detail to give you all a “good picture” of her personality, attitude..my situation.
I believe she has made a lot of false negativer emarks about me to her husband. He did not want me at their wedding and she sided with him. They invited no one.
She claims he said because I don’t like him which I never said. I don’t like his violent ways. regardless I have never been disrespectful to him or them as a couple. She has been rude about me and my fiance several times. Anyway, I saw them at the store today and he was super rude to me. Didn’t speak when I said hello and I tried one more time to talk to him. I made a joke we laughed I attempted to clue him in. My sis said “you don’t have to tell him”.
Also, there was an issue last year he kept staring at me when I was watching tv at her house. She mentioned it this year about 4 times and said it’s just because I have large chest “he stares at any woman that has that it’s not that he likes you”. I never mentioned it and I always say ok change the topic or say nothing at all.
I’ve been with my fiance for nearly 4 years and engaged for a little over 2. He wants to buy me another Ering since he saw the ring my ex got me. I am actually afraid for her to see it when I get it.
I love her dearly but there is a lot of pain in me that her negative attitude caused me… Also her cheating with multiple men and being envolved with men that were married and living with their wives and men in ltrs… makes me very uncomfortable. Marriage is a serious special commitment to me. I kinda feel her being there will taint it?
Maybe I should ask this in a psych forum or something but I thought it would be much easier to get direct honest answers/replies. Please don’t be rude. Thanks.