- Sweet tooth
- 9 years ago
- Wedding: September 2009
Hello there ladies…
I have a HUGE dilemma so here goes. I come from a very traditional big Mexican family and I am having trouble with our guest list. We planned on inviting between 115-120 ppl but that does not include some of my immediate family. Let me clearify this by saying that when my father married my mother he was widowed and had 7 children. When I was born all my half siblings lived in Mexico and I was unaware that they even existed. It wasn’t until I was about 11 or so that I learned that I had siblings. My whole life I was told that I was an only child well at least that is what my mom said to me. Now the problem is that I am not close to my half siblings at all. I haven’t seen them for about 4-5 years and even before that I didn’t really talk to them. When I told my parents that I did not intend to invite them to my wedding they flipped out. They said that it would be better if I didn’t have a wedding at all rather than to exclude my half siblings. These past few years my father has been getting closer to his other children and my mom has also been spending a lot more time with them. They are all much older than me and my nieces are either as old as me or older. I would love to invite only one of my half sisters and maybe her family but my parents said that wasn’t fair to the rest. If I include one sister then I have to add about another 30 people (give or take ) to the guest list. I feel like I am being torn in different directions. If I stick to my original guestlist then my FI and I are happy. If I chose to invite only one of my half siblings then the I run a chance that she will not even come. If I don’t invite any siblings my father will not only be hurt but dissapointed as well. One of the reasons we are paying for the wedding ourselves is so that we don’t feel pressure to invite everyone our family knows but now I’m stressing out about this.
Just to keep things fair we are also not inviting anyone in my future father-in-laws family. Both fathers will not have any family there and both are upset.
What should I do?
Would you feel guilty of not inviting your half siblings?
Would you cut friends you are close to for blood relatives to attend your wedding?
Please let me know your thoughts…