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    kyrstien    April 23, 2012   Provo

    So, my fiance and I were set up on a blind date by two mutual friends. We hit it off. Within a couple of weeks this same friend decided to end our friendship because she didn't like that I was dating my now fiance. When we ot engaged I let her know (mostly because she is in the same congregation as my FI and I didn't want her tohear from other people and cause drama). I haven't seen her for over four months...the last time I saw her was for a nice "get-together" where she trash talked my FI and left me feeling totally worthless. The issue is that I am good friends with her roommate and her sister and am inviting both of them. I don't want to offend her, but anytime I see her and just the thought of having her at my reception sends me into panic attack mode. Do I suck it up and invite her or no?

     
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    samanthajkellie    February 4, 2012   Australia

    I would not invite her. Shes not a friend, by her own choice. Your wedding is about sharing it with people that support you and your future husband.

     
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    @samanthajkellie:  ditto! I can't imagine inviting her to the wedding. She has no right to be offended over the lack of an invitation. And if she is, who cares?

     
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    jocember    August 17, 2013   Syracuse, NY

    She isn't your friend and openly trash talks your FI... definitely no. If she's offended, who cares? She has no right to be.

     
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    Juliepants    June 2, 2012   Ontario

    I would absolutely not invite anyone who made me feel "worthless" no matter who they are friends with!  Your wedding guests should be people who love and support you.  It doesn't matter if things will feel awkward around the time the invites go out - that's much better than you feeling awkward for even a moment on your wedding day.

     
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    ReymilizM    April 22, 2012  

    There should be no Question about it .. ABSOLUTELY NOT .. 

     
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    ReymilizM    April 22, 2012  

    There should be no Question about it .. ABSOLUTELY NOT .. 

     
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    meowcifer    September 21, 2014  

    I totally agree with everyone who has posted so far.  You are not required to invite someone who purposely put you off.  She made her own choice here.  If she was interested in being part of your life, she wouldn't be such a jerk to you and your FI.  Her roommate and her sister will understand why she wasn't invited and probably won't be offended at all, so I wouldn't worry about it.

     
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    Ms Bookworm    November 3, 2012   Minneapolis, MN

    I agree with everyone else.  No way, don't invite her.

     
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    Carliej01    September 8, 2012   Florida

    It's your day. You shouldn't have to stress about people being at your wedding that you don't want there! And she obviously doesn't care about your feelings, so why would you care if it offends her that she doesn't get an invitation. She shouldn't even be expecting to be invited.

     
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    Vegas Pug    November 27, 2010   Suburban Chicago

    Why would you even consider inviting her?  Sounds like she doesn't care about you and your finace anyway, so why invite more drama?

     
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    kyrstien    April 23, 2012   Provo

    Okay thanks...this makes me feel a lot better about not wanting to invite her and validates what I was thinking! Thanks so much!

     
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    adnama    July 21, 2012   Langley, Britsh Columbia

    No.Just no.

     
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    nutMeg13    September 22, 2012   Buffalo

    Don't invite her! Thats her fault if she feels offended, not yours.

     
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    misrusticj    January 28, 2012  

    It seems pretty obvious to  me that the answer is NO! Why invite someone you don't like and doesn't like you?

     

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