Post # 1
I’m having some issues on deciding who to include on my guest list. I am a very social person, I have alot of friends and acquaintences that I have become very close with because of my work in the community (event planner, volunteer, organizer, etc). There are many people who are thinking they are going to be invited to my wedding because of how close we work together. I even had an acquantance tell me he is looking forward to my big day!? He’s not even on the guest list! But this has been the case for many people I work with who assume they are going to be invited. He wanted only 100 but we ended up with 145. My Fiance is adament about keeping our guest list the way it is and will not accept me inviting more people. So I don’t know what to do. How do I politely tell people that I’m friends with in my career that they are just not invited? Do you think they will understand? I don’t want to tarnish my relationships with my community partners.
Post # 3
My step-mom had this same problem years ago. She could only invite what her venue allowed a little over 100, and met up with all her work collegues and customers at her work bar after her regular reception. I think people will tend to understand you have space constraints. By The Way she worked as a bartender at a beach bar and over the years, and even before that she had just become friends with too many people. If they felt they needed to invite everyone they wouldv’e had a guestlist of over 400 people. You might feel bad, but you have to draw the line somewhere. Just let them know it is a low key wedding with only family and close friends, they will hopefully understand.
Post # 4
Well… you don’t tell them unless they ask & when they do the answer is simply that there isn’t enough space: your venue is full. People shouldn’t EXPECT to be invited to your wedding & it would be super rude for them to be outwardly upset afterward!
Post # 5
I think you should also examine how much you are talking about the wedding in front of univited guests. Really you shouldn’t be mentioning anything about it. Then if they still bring it up, just tell them that you are sorry they won’t be able to fit in your space.
Post # 6
I think being honest that you are having a smaller wedding and just can’t afford to include everyone you love! I think every couple ends up needing to make a decision about who can be there and unless you have a wedding for 700 there’s probably going to be someone that you’ll have to not invite.
Post # 7
@Andielovesj – you are so right. My Fiance tells me the same thing. He tells me I talk about the wedding too much, so people are expecting they will be a part of it. I have to work on that!!
You ladies are right. Thanks for the feedback!
Post # 8
@andielovesj: That is wonderful advice. I just thought back to this week and I was discussing wedding plans with someone I don’t plan on inviting. How rude of me!!