Post # 1
I’m having trouble deciding if I should invite a few friends to my wedding. My previous relationship, 4 years ago, was with a very abusive man. a few friends of mine cut off contact with me because I wasn’t strong enough to leave and they couldn’t sit back and watch me get hurt. I left this man after being put into the hospital after a violent attack. I moved on after that and have undergone counseling ever since. I also met the love of my life and have been with my future husband for two years and we are planning a 10/10/2015 wedding. My question is….these friends that stopped talking to me then I barely talk to at all now, maybe a like or comment on Facebook. That’s it. I was in most of their weddings and were close friends with them my whole life until the terrible relationship occurred. Do I still invite them? I was the maid of honor in one of their weddings. Help please.
Post # 2
Kourtlynn02: I’m no etiquette expert but I don’t think you have to invite them. Regardless of how close you used to be or the fact you were in their weddings, what matters is how close you are now.
Post # 3
Kourtlynn02: If you haven’t resumed the friendship, I’m not sure why you would want them at your wedding. If you would like to resume the friendship, reaching out to them to share your happiness by inviting them to the wedding, may be a way to accomplish that.
Post # 3
It sounds like you have grown apart. You were at their weddings, but it was a different time. I wouldn’t invite them to your wedding.
Post # 6
I don’t think you have to invite them. Chances are, they’d be doing the same thing, wondering if they should RSVP yes to your wedding or not, since you haven’t really continued your relationship. They might feel like you were inviting them out of obligation. Unless you really do want them to be there, skip it and save room for people that you’re close with now.
Post # 7
Kourtlynn02: You’re certainly not obliged to invite them if you’ve had little contact for 4 years. If you miss them and want them there, then go ahead and invite them. But you’re not obliged to.
Post # 8
Thank you everyone. I guess I was feeling obligated but I’ve tried to reach out a few times with little response. I would like to reconcile these friendships but it certainly seems we are all in different places and have responsibilities we didn’t have in our younger years. I have great people in my life and I think I’ll stick with them!!!!
Post # 9
I would also like to add, this site is awesome! I’m going to have many questions and need opinions throughout the next year and it’s nice to read unbiased responses!!!
Post # 10
Kourtlynn02: I don’t think you have to invite them, but it sounds like you might want to try and rebuild that friendship. Perhaps try getting the friendship back on the ground first and see how you feel.
Post # 11
Kourtlynn02: I wouldn’t. Sorry, but they abandoned you during the time when you needed them most. If you haven’t reconnected with them, I would not send them an invite.