To invite or not to invite, dont want to burn bridges

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Do I invite this family to the wedding?
    Yes invite them to save face and be cordial : (9 votes)
    36 %
    No invite only who you want to invite : (16 votes)
    64 %
  • Post # 3
    2042 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    If they are a couple you rarely see I would say dont invite them.  If they didn’t invite you for whatever reason they probably wont care that they didnt get an invite.  Invite who you want there.  Its your wedding. 

    Post # 4
    917 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    How big is your wedding? Is it a budget killer if you add these two? I’m a “the more the merrier” type, so I always err on the side of inviting folks. However, I guess I need more information on your specific wedding to suggest a call on this one. How do they fit into your vision for the day? If it’s a monster 200 person reception, adding 2 more can’t hurt to keep the peace. If it’s a small, 40 person, intimate affair I say leave them out. 

    Post # 6
    2222 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Does everyone else have kids? If she only invited families with kids, I wouldn’t take it personally.

    Post # 8
    2620 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    if you dont have kids im pretty sure thats why you are not invited to the birthday party…

    Post # 9
    1590 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    Yeah I’m sure it’s just because you don’t have kids. My own best friend asked me if I wanted to be invited to her daughter’s second birthday. She’s inviting the moms who she now knows through her daughther, but she probably didn’t want to “burden” me with an invite if I wasn’t interested. I love children so I said sure and I’m looking forward to it. 

    These days, some people give parents a bad rap so they’re cautious not to burden the child free, I feel. 

    Post # 10
    337 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    @earthbiscuit:  I voted for yes, because after reading your post, it sounded like they were nice people (at least the wife), and living in a new area and developing relationships with this tight knit group would be a good thing.  But I do also think they could have extended the invite to the birthday party for their 1 year old, even if you don’t have kids.  If you really didn’t care for this one couple I would say don’t invite them … you should have people you really like at your wedding!

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