(Closed) To Invite or Not to Invite (lengthy)

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll:
    To Invite : (12 votes)
    67 %
    Not To Invite : (5 votes)
    28 %
    Undecided? : (0 votes)
    Other (please explain) : (1 votes)
    6 %
  • Post # 3
    1798 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    I think your wedding is a good chance to extend the olive branch and forgive each other for an argument that obviously got out of hand.

    Post # 4
    804 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I’m not quite sure how to vote but don’t want to vote undecided yet, sorry!

    I think that before you invite them, you should reach out and try to mend fences.

    But if you don’t want them in your lives, don’t invite them.

    Does that make any sense?  Inviting them can be a reconciliation, but it could also invite drama.  If you want them in your lives again, I’d patch things up before the wedding and say, “It sucks that we fought, we want you in our lives, but here are the problems that we have with you.  Let’s hash them out.”  And then decide whether to invite them.

    Post # 5
    7174 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    Do you want them in your life?

    If yes, then send them an invite.

    If no, then don’t.

    I know that seems really simple, but that’s pretty much what it boils down to.  If your Fiance is ok with it after what happened and it seems like your heart wants to have them be part of it, then I’d invite them.  But, also realize that just because your heart is in the right place, and your intentions are good, it doesn’t mean you’ll get a logical or kind response from him.

    Post # 6
    161 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I think you should invite.I doubt you would regret it but you probably will if you don’t and God forbid something happens. It will also set a good example for your children. Good Luck! 

    Post # 7
    482 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2011




    Post # 8
    674 posts
    Busy bee

    If you think he’ll behave, then invite them. If you are concerned that in the atmosphere, he might start something again, then I wouldn’t risk it since your FI’s family will be around. Depending on the kind of wedding you’re having, their jealousy could peek through and that combined with past issues may not mix well. On the other hand, if you think they can legitimately keep it together for you, then go for it because hopefully it will improve your relationship in the future.

    Post # 9
    1306 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I come from a family with divorced and remarried parents. I feel that while the hunting issue may have seemed trivial, it is part of a way bigger story.

    I do not get along with my stepmother or her three daughters, so I will NOT be inviting them. My father will be invited, but he knows better than to bring her. Maybe you can just invite your mom?

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