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To invite or not to invite...that is the question

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    BrideToBrit    September 10, 2011  

    Hi ladies, here is my dilemma.  I am inviting all of my Aunts and Uncles, but no cousins to my wedding.  I have a massive family, and need to draw the line somewhere.  There are cousins I would like to invite that I am close to, but I think this is an all or nothing sort of thing.  I am however inviting all my cousins to the dance.  Here is the thing though, my DJ is my cousin.  That being said, with him coming a fair distance to do this for me (I am paying him his rate minus 150 because it is me) Do I invite him to the whole shebang?  I know all of my cousins understand my keeping the head count lower, but this one has me baffled!

     
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    mrsawesome09    June 5, 2011   Madison, WI

    I would invite him to the whole thing.  It's just one more person, and since he's going to be working during the recpetion, why not let him relax and enjoy the ceremony beforehand? 

     
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    andielovesj    August 13, 2011  

    I don't think you have to draw a line at relationships.  We have drawn the line at people with whom we have an active relationship with.  So some first cousins are invited (we see them regularly, and have met FI) and others are not (haven't seen them in 7 years and don't communicate with them, and they've never even heard of FI).

    Will my aunts and uncles be upset that their kids are not invited, maybe.  But I am willing to risk it.

     

     
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    Future Mrs. Martin    August 21, 2010   London Ontario Canada

    I would invite him to the ceremony!

     

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