(Closed) To Invite or Not to Invite…That is the question!

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
292 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I would talk to both your step-sister and your step-mom. Maybe if she’s a bridesmaid it might cause a rift, and it might be more PC to have her contribute in another way, with a reading or something. Your step-mom will probably know why her sons won’t be invited, but it’s usually best to talk these things out (pertaining to your step-sis’s involvement) and have a good idea of the consequences beforehand. That being said, don’t let anyone talk you into inviting them! If you don’t want someone there, then don’t invite them. Good luck!!

Post # 4
115 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

ugh. How much do bad family members suck. So sorry you have to deal with them.

It will cause a drama, yes. I think unfortunately family issues always do. Talk to your stepmum about it, as suggested by WoodenShoes, and test to see how the water is but I have the feeling it will cause drama.

The question is if you want to fight this battle. There are battles you pick and decide if this is going to be one you do. Not discouraging here (I hate that you have to invite anyone you don’t like/know) just putting it out there.

Also, I know what you’re going through. My brother in law and I had a massive row so now I’m wondering if I should invite my only sister and him at all! That’s going to cause fireworks of anger from my parents.


Post # 5
4194 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

@WoodenShoes:  Ditto. Talk to the step-mom/sister. Yes, it will probably cause some drama, but families do get estranged, and this wasn’t even the family you were born with.

@nanacholito:  There was MAJOR drama with my SIL/brother earlier this year about children not being invited to our wedding (including my nephew). I really don’t want my SIL there. But not inviting her isn’t worth the fallout. You should invite, but he doesn’t have to attend-married couples should be invited together.

Post # 6
115 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@rebwana oh no! Sorry to hear you had a fight over something I would have thought most people would be understanding about!!

Post # 9
1280 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

What ever happened?

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