Post # 1
Ok Bees…I’m having trouble deciding to invite friends with “+1”. Originally I thought I would invite all single wedding guests with a “+1”, but really pushes our desired #s WAY over. I know that ettitique says that you’re supposed to give anyone 25 (or older) the option of bringing someone. If any of them were seriously dating someone I would have no problem, bugt NONE of them are. ALL of them know and socialize with each other. Your thoughts???
Post # 3
@bfh426: i’m sure that they would be fine going solo. Especially if they all know and socialize with eachother.
Post # 4
No plus ones – unless they will know no one at the wedding… They may not understand now but they will when THEY are the ones having to pay for the wedding hahaha
Post # 5
I seem to be in the minority but is this a new thing that some people don’t get +1s? Because I always assumed everybody who isn’t married or close to it gets a “+1” to a wedding. My dad passed away gets a +1 to weddings and typically I’m the one to go with her… if she didn’t have that option she likely wouldn’t go since she’s not totally social and… let’s face it.. even if people know others there, it’s awkward to be alone at a wedding! Especially if most of your friends have dates…..
I’m planning my guest list around deverybody being able to bring somebody else. Children invites are very limited (family only) and I’m being choosey with who I invite so that I may offer the comfort of my guests chosing, if they are single or dating somebody just recently, who they’d like to enjoy our moment with…
I’d be pretty upset when I was single if I’d received a no plus 1 invite to a wedding…
Post # 6
Ettiquette says nothing about giving people over a certain age a plus one. In general it’s expected that you would know the name of the “plus one” because they would be a spouse, fiance(e), or live in partner, and could address the invitation to the both of them.
Post # 7
@CindyRelly: On the other side of that, I feel uncomfortable in front of people, and I don’t want people I’ve never met to watch me so closely all day. If a guest would know absolutely no one else I could understand, but when they all know each other, why extend invitations to people the couple doesn’t even know?
I don’t think there’s a right or wrong way to do it. I’m seriously considering only allowing +1s to people in relationships to cut down on numbers, since I’m WAY over church capacity, ha. I don’t think it’s rude to skip the +1s if your friends will know several other people at the wedding.
Post # 8
Yes, as long as they know other people there, then there is no need to send out a plus one.
Post # 9
THANKS BEES! You all just truly just put me at ease with my decision.
I did include dates for EVERYONE that is dating someone seriously or engaged. I have a group of 6 girls (they all know each other, my family, and many other guests) and 1 guy (he knows all of my FI’s famiily and friends) who are single. NONE of them are dating anyone seriously OR casually, so I didn’t really see the need to invite them with a +1. The only children invited are either in the wedding (4), or from out of town and wouldn’t have anyone to leave their children with.
Originally my Fiance and I only wanted 125 guests @most, but once we began to combine my family, his family, and our lists…we wound up with a WHOPPING 177! We know that at least 20 of them will not come (work people who live a great distance away) and family that live far and have already said they won’t be coming, but even still we are 25+ over what we had thought. We’ve scrutinized our list over and over and over, but there really is no one else we can cut.
I know some of the girls will b*&%h and complain about being invited alone, but my Mom-who is a widow- is paying for our entire wedding herself w/out any help from my Future Mother-In-Law or Future Father-In-Law (that is WHOLE other story for another day). Besides…my MOM isn’t even bringing a guest (not like she has anyone to, but still).