(Closed) To kids table, or not to kids table

posted 4 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Do kids tables work?
    Yes - seperate the kids and adults : (10 votes)
    26 %
    No - sit adults and children together : (26 votes)
    68 %
    No - I have explained below : (2 votes)
    5 %
  • Post # 3
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    24027 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    @DeeWee:  I kind of thing you should seat the kids with the parents. If you had kids from 8-12 then I’d say maybe you could toy with the idea of a kids’ table, but I’m really not sure about separating a 5/6 year old from his/her parent.  But I’m not a parent! So I’m just going on instinct here.

    Post # 5
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    1498 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    Everything I’ve read either says the kids table works out well… or it is a nightmare of epic proportions!   Like, kids with no supervision start feeding emotionally off of each other and start acting out.  I think kids need supervision when eating, as this tends to keep them in line and quiet.  

    Post # 6
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    1125 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I did a kids table and should not have at all.

    The kids did not stay at the table at all, they were constantly up running around screaming and going crazy, my wedding was very laid back so this was OK but unless you have an adult designated to the kids table to keep them seated and behaving, I suggest against a kids table.

    Post # 7
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    4499 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    We’re seating children with their parents for dinner, but we are having a kid’s table for children to color and do activites at after dinner. I remember going to weddings as a kid and being bored out of my mind. We’ll just have games of some sort, coloring books, etc at the table for kids who are 5-10.

    Post # 8
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    2000 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

    I voted for seating the kids at a separate table – if seated with their parents who are busy talking to other adults, most children (in my experience as an aunt of 3) get bored and start looking for attention by behaving badly.  I think both the children and the adults might have more fun if seated separately.  However, I do think it would be very much advisable to have a person supervising the kids, I wouldn’t just leave them to their own devices.  Maybe, if your budget allows for it, you could hire a child minder who would also entertain the children by playing games with them? If there’s no way you can do it, I guess it would be better to just keep them together. 

    Post # 9
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    688 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    I don’t know… I’ve been to a wedding where the kids table was an absolute disaster. They knocked it over, broke everything on it. It was ridiculous.

    I sat kids with their parents at my wedding, however I also made sure that at those tables I also sat another family who I knew got along well with them who also had kids. So they had someone to converse with their age at their table.

    Post # 10
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    557 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    @DeeWee:  have them sitting with their parents or you may end up the a food fight in your reception :O

    really… young children without supervision? it’s a big no no in my mind. I do like the idea of having some activities for them to do, like a an area where they can sit or play something why their parents have a good time… but I would have someone watch them. 

    Post # 11
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    1823 posts
    Buzzing bee

    As a mom and a nana, I think it is a must for the children to be seated with their parents for dinner.  A non-negotiable.

    I think it is a wonderful idea to have a children’s table AFTER dinner.  We did this at my wedding as well as my DD’s wedding 8 years ago.  They had a place to play and hang out with each other that didn’t include food.

    Put all those kids at a table alone and you will have as much food on the floor as you do on the plates…..and all over the table.  That is a mess and disaster waiting to happen.

    Post # 12
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

    I don’t think it’s fair to seat children, especially young ones, away from their parents. It can make the shy children very upset and nervous, the slightly older ones feel like social pariahs, and the naughty ones go wild without supervision. After dinner, with adults to supervise them, fine. But not during dinner. As a parent in an unfamiliar place, with unfamiliar people, I would also feel very uncomfortable if I could not see my 6 year old at all times, especially if I knew they were at an unsupervised table. I would worry about them wandering off or getting hurt etc.

    Post # 13
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    3058 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2015

    To me a kids table is just begging for disaster. A 5 year old is not going to sit at a table by himself and behave. Kids that age need parents to keep them in line.

    Post # 14
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    7463 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    You want 5-10 year olds by themselves…errrrr no.

     

    Post # 15
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    7885 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I’m a mother, and I say definitely sit them with their parents.

    p.s. To the people who say the kids will be bored: well that’s their parents’ problem for bringing them. If the parents want a peaceful night, they’ll leave them at home with a sitter. By bringing them, they’re saying they’re ok with minding them.

    Post # 16
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    1400 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    @DeeWee:  Kids can be at their own table as long as they’re not babies. Also, please don’t put anyone over the age of 12 there. I got kid-tabled at a wedding once when I was 19. FUCKING 19! The kids ranged from 2-12, and none of them spoke decent English. Disaster.

    Post # 17
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    150 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    We were thinking of having a Teen Table for the 14-17 year olds who always seem to want to separate from the adults and talk and text amongst themselves anyway.  We didn’t want them to feel like they had to sit next to their parents and plus most of them will already know each other and are good friends.  But we’ll just go with the flow and probably ask them offline what they’d prefer and go from there.

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