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Why can't you both move to CO in December? He won't take care of you if you join him in CO? What would be the point of you two living in two different states paying to keep up two different households?
If he did go out in December, he would live with his parents for 6 months. We think that me staying here until I get to the 2 year mark and a higher GS would hopefully help me find another job.
ETA: The other thing is if we are both going to move out there in December, we would have to leave our house unrented in CO and see if we can find a place we can live for 6 months or just break the lease here to move in December.
@MissAsB: I don't know what GS you're at now, but if you've got the potential to go up a grade fairly soon, i'd stay. keep in mind you'd have to be at that grade for a year in order to be eligible for the next higher grade after that - which if you're looking to transfer might make a big difference. FH and I are LDR (for 1.5 years) mainly because I've got like 2 more automatic yearly promotions left (when we started I had 3), so to me, a few months would be worth it.
I don't know what a GS is but many, many, many and I would even say most wives move with their husbands when they relocate for a job. Whatever you're working on in AL I would think you could finish in CO. You don't like your job, you don't like AL and you can keep in touch with your friends via email and Facebook. It seems obvious to me you should move with your husband. I can't imagine not going with your husband unless he was on his way off to war or something like that.
@elliestan: I'm eligible for a GS-7 in June but officially I will qualify for a GS-9 once my Master's is complete. My program is up to a GS-11 but I don't think I could stay apart that long, automatic promotion or not.
@MissAsB: hmm. I'm on a 7-9-11 too, but my position is written for a 12, so i should get that 1 year after getting my 11... i'm a 9 right now. if you leave now, you're only going to be able to apply for admin type positions with no/little room for advancement, but with a 7 (and even a 9) that's not going to change too much. if you were a 9 verging on 11 i'd stay stick with it, but if you're a 4 or 5 verging on 7 I might say just go. It really depends on your aspirations though! If you want to go private sector, then definitely go. if you're looking at just trying to relocate and still move up in the public, then i'd say you should wait for your next grade bump.
@MissAsB: oh no! if it makes you feel any better at all i had the exact same problem almost a year ago. I started applying for jobs in January and continued to do so until after I finished my M.S. I officially defended my thesis in July and had a job offer at the end of August. The same happened to other people in my program. My theory is - companies want to be sure you will 'see your degree through.' Hang in there!! And even though LDRs are hard - IMO it will be worth it in the end for both of your futures :)
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My husband and I are sort of at a crossroads. Almost 2 years ago, we moved to AL for my husband's job. I went back to school full time for a year and I just started working at a job about a year ago. I'm not really thrilled with it and I'm not sure if it's going to get me anywhere in the future. I'm just glad to have a job right now.
And now to the dilemma. He is going to graduate from his intern program and has an opportunity to go back to CO. He doesn't really have a preference about working here or working there. I like CO better: I hate the humidity here, we would be near his family, and we already own a house there. The only thing I would miss here are my friends from work.
I have been applying for jobs out there for a few months now and haven't really heard anything. I don't know if it's because I'm not done with my Master's yet, or that I'm not out there or if I just have a bad resume!
If he takes the job, he wouldn't go out there until December. So maybe I would find something in the next 7 months and this is all a moot point. But I'm worried that I won't find something and we will end up being long distance for 6 months or more.
I'm just not sure what to do.