Post # 1
I have been “big” for as long as I can remember; I am currently a size 24W. I always thought that being “plus size” meant having to buy clothing to cover and hide my flaws. I was so nervous to try on wedding dresses because I was afraid that nothing would fit and that I wouldn’t look as beautiful as some of the other brides I have seen. Because of my fears, I started shopping for my dress alone, so that no one would see me have to get squeezed into a sample gown that was way too small or see how ridiculous my dream of wearing a certain style of dress was because it hugged me in all the wrong places.
When I found my dress, I was nervous because I never would have picked it out for myself. I thought that there was no way in God’s grace that something like that would ever work for me- but there it was. I wanted my mom’s approval before I purchased it (I was so worried that I was caught up in the moment and that my dream dress looked wonderful in the store because I was the only one looking). I went home and invited my mom to come to the store with me but she questioned why I was looking for a dress so early and said that I needed to lose weight first. I cried and cried but didn’t give up and finally got her to come to see me in it.
I showed her three dresses that day, the last one being THE ONE. After showing her the first dress, I went into the dressing room to prepare for the next one and I overheard her telling the bridal consultant that she wanted me to wear something with more coverage or more modest because I was “big”. When I came out in the second dress, she said that it was nice, but that she was hoping I would choose something similar to a dress I had worn a few years ago which hid my flaws/size well. Part of me wanted to get in a hole and die, but I mustered up my courage and said, “When you see me come out in the next dress, you will see that I have NOTHING to hide.”
To any girls out there that are plus sized and nervous about looking for a dress because you think that you’re not as pretty or as thin or as whatever as a “normal” bride- I hope that you will see that you are SO, SO beautiful!
Please don’t let anyone take your day away from you- ESPECIALLY not yourself.
Here I am in the dream dress that I never gave myself the luxury- to dream of being in. I hope you all find yours and that your dress makes you feel as gorgeous as I feel in mine!
Post # 3
You look super foxy in that dress! I believe women of all sizes can be beautiful but i just need to tell you I never would have thought you were a size 24 by looking at that picture.
Post # 4
I felt the same way lady, I alwayse dreamed of getting married in lace form fitting gown, but never in a million years thought it would work with my body type! When it came time to go to the salon I shyed away from that very look because I was scared that it just wouldnt look good. I had been honest with the consultant about the whole thing and she insisted I try on a slim aline and I loved it and felt beautiful!
You Look so stunning in your dress and I am so happy you didnt have to settle
Post # 5
You look smashing in that dress! 🙂
Post # 6
@IcedCreations: Holy crap… you look really hot! Like… really really hot. What did your mom say? Did she see how awesome you look or is she insane?
Post # 7
GORGEOUS!! You look absolutely stunning, and I mean that. And I don’t think you have anything you need to “hide”. Your curves are amazing.
Also, I loved the set up lol. I felt like I was reading a dramatic novel or something…I couldn’t wait to see THE DRESS! haha
Also, what did your mom have to say about this one?
Post # 8
You look amazing!! Congrats:)
Post # 9
Thank you, thank you, thank you for all of your kind words!
@JLee28 You look soooo beautiful!! I totally agree with your comment about being honest with the bridal consultant (and with yourself!), the truth really comes out in those stores!!
Unfortunately, the reaction I received from my mom wasn’t the one that all of you have given me (and for that I thank you all so much, I KNOW I’m not crazy!) The best I got from her was, “It’s nice”, “It’s better than the other two” and my all time favorite, “Well, if its the one you want, then it’s the one you want.” It seems like she started warming up to it the longer I kept it on, but at least I know she doesn’t hate it.
In the end, I am 100% confident that this is my dress and I can’t wait to knock my fiance’s socks off!
Post # 10
@IcedCreations: You look wonderful. I’m a big girl too and my mother acts very similarly. All of that is her own bullshit and baggage that she’s bringing to the table and has nothing to do with you. It’s narcissim, really, and it’s so wonderful that you harnessed your strength and courage and committed to respecting and loving yourself in that moment.
You’ll be a gorgeous bride!
Post # 11
@IcedCreations: I am not the type of person who will lie to someone just to be nice, so I hope you believe me when I say you DO look beautiful in that dress! It is very flattering to your curves and the ruffles are such a nice touch.
I think it is very, very common that we who are larger tend to wear baggy, shapeless clothes to try to “hide” our size. Sometimes that actually looks a lot worse than if you just “own it” and show off your true shape.
You are going to look amazing in that dress!
Post # 12
You look amazing and your brave rejoinder brought tears to my eyes!
Post # 13
You are stunning!
America has a strange way of how an ideal bride should look like.
I’m sure your mom is great, but what she said saddens me.
Im so happy you found your dress.
Post # 14
@Ariadne: i couldn’t have said that better. There’s beauty in everyone and everything.
Post # 15
You look beautiful girl! your post will help sooo many ladies out there. Every girl deserves to feel beautiful, and must remember that their man fell in love with them AS THEY ARE. never let anyone or anything make you doubt that.
Post # 16
@IcedCreations: I’m so sorry to hear your mom had a less than stellar reaction, my mom reacted the same way and it was oh so hurtful! it makes me so happy that your so confident, I actually had a second guessing moment when my mom was not blown away. In the end (with some help from my wonderful MOH) I relized I couldn’t imagine getting married in anything else. I can’t wait to see your whole look come together, your going to be stunning!