Post # 1
So we sent out our wedding invites a few weeks ago and since then the gifts have been flowing in! I am absolutely floored by how generous people have been. Originally we weren’t on opening gifts until after the wedding but our apartment is getting super full of boxes. Is it ok to open gifts before the wedding or is it totally taboo? Have any of you bees opened gifts before the wedding?
Post # 3
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
We didn’t open them, but we did alert each sender that we had received the gift and would be opening it after the wedding. We didn’t want anyone to worry that their gift hadn’t arrived.
ETA: I personally hold to the tradition that you don’t use gifts until after the wedding. We didn’t open the gifts because we wanted to open them together.
Post # 4
we opened them and i wrote the thank you notes as they came in. that way i could stay on top of the thank you’s and not have a crap ton to do all at the same time. we didn’t use any of the gifts until after the wedding. we were moving a month after so we waited until we had moved to even unpack the gifts from their original boxes.
i voted wrong. i accidentally voted for we opened and used them.
Post # 5
I was suprised when i got a thank you card almost a month before my cousins wedding for a gift I sent (she is important to me and my God sister) so wanted to get her something good off her registry early… at first I thought wow she already got it sent it out, thought you waited till after the wedding. Then I realized how smart it was to have thank you cards out if the way and that she could already enjoy the gift. I plan to do the same if the SO allows it.
Post # 6
We haven’t recieved any “gifts” but we did receive a check from a family member. We put it into our wedding fund. Had we recieved gifts, however, we would have opened them and used them on the spot. We are “living in sin” now anyway, and there is nothing more taboo than that as it is lol.
Post # 7
We opened them but didn’t use them – I mean, we opened them like took them out of the wrapping paper/mailing package, but if it was something in it’s own packaging we didn’t take it out of that. That cut down a lot on amout of space it took up – maybe two tall stacks in our spare room?
Post # 8
@Mrs.babycat: Let me play devil’s advocate here. Unlike PPs, I wouldn’t open gifts before the wedding…do it AFTER. What if someone gives you a totally weird gift that you didn’t ask for (there’s always AT LEAST one)? Then, every time you see that person on your wedding day, you’re going to think back to the odd choice of gift and it might make your interaction with them awkward.
My advice, you have enough to deal with leading up to the day. Just wait until after–and enjoy the wedding day. Then, you also have yet another thing to look forward to AFTER the wedding! You could even make a thing of it–my fiance’s family has a tradition of doing a post-wedding brunch with just close family where the bride and groom open the gifts. It’s kinda fun, and a way to have a moment to celebrate with just your close family!
Post # 9
We haven’t received any gifts yet, but we are both incredibly impulsive. We likely wouldn’t use the gifts because we are moving right after the wedding, and don’t need another thing to pack. However, I do like the idea of sending thank you’s right away!
Post # 10
We opened everything so we could stay on top of thank you notes. This is bleak but I wouldn’t use them just in case there was some sort of emergency where you may have to cancel the wedding. If so you’re supposed to give everything back so better to be safe!
Post # 11
I opened and put away everything that I got for my shower, and threw out whatever they were replacing and used them right away. We live in a tiny apartment; there’s no room for a stack of boxes and doubles of stuff. I didn’t receive any physical wedding gifts in advance though.
Post # 12
- Wedding: November 2012 - Oak Tree Manor
@Mrs.babycat: Those dang boxes take up so much space!! We didn’t have enough room to store all of the boxes, so we opened our gifts (almost all kitchen stuff) and organized them in our kitchen. We used a lot of them before the wedding – I mean, we registered because we hardly had any cookware, and our knives were getting so bad that I was constantly nicking my fingers with them – having a full set of pots & pans, new sharper knives, etc. was so handy. I don’t think opening and using the gifts before the wedding is too big of a deal.
Once we dragged all of the boxes and packing to the recycling center, it was SUCH a relief.
Post # 13
For the bees who opened the gifts to get on top of the thank you cards – I assume that you didn’t have ones w the wedding pic.. Or would they get 2 ( one after the gift & another Afro attending?)
Post # 14
@SapphireSun: Ditto re: shower gifts!
@Mrs.babycat: Re: wedding gifts, we opened gifts as they came in and sent thank you notes right away. However, we only used one gift before the wedding. A few of my college friends chipped in to buy me a Nespresso machine, and they specifically told me they wanted me to use it right away. (Who am I kidding, I probably wouldn’t have waited to use that one anyway!)
Post # 15
@Nic01: We didn’t do photo thank you cards but, even if we had, I don’t think we would have sent a second thank you note for attending. We did use a wedding photo for our Christmas cards, which went out about 2 months after the wedding.
Post # 16
@Nic01: We opened our gifts, but we didn’t use photo cards – just regular thank you cards in our colors. I felt like it was more important to do timely thank yous than to send them a wedding photo – especially with the ability to share photos online, it seemed unnecessary.
We opened ours, but didn’t use most of them. We just stacked them in our extra bedroom/study – I didn’t want to try to reorganize the kitchen just to do it all over again after the actual wedding, so I waited. We did deposit checks though.