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So I was really curious about some of the comments made to another Bee's thread in regard to her decision to share her boudior photos with us. I wanted to create a thread to bring that discussion from her post to one more appropriate for it.
Would you or would you not post boudior photos to the internet (for instance, to WB) and why? Many posters seemed to be upset by another Bee's choice to share her photos with us and I guess I'd like a better understanding of where these people are coming from.
I personally wouldn't have a problem posting my photos. Most boudior photos are more covered than when I wear a bikini and I don't think twice about posting pictures from the beach. I wouldn't be worried about them coming back to haunt me as I wouldn't put my name with them and if a potential employer did find them and wouldn't hire me / fired me because of it - well, I wouldn't want to work for that sort of person anyway!
Now I completely understand some people's modesty reasons for not wanting to share but some of the complete opposition to sharing for any reason surprised me!
What does everyone else think?
i definately would post them, bc like you said... i show more in a bikini than i will in boudoir pics. plus i am proud of my body and not shy at all!
I don't think it's a big deal at all. As long as the person in the photos has either posted them on here herself or given permission for them to be posted, have at it! What's the difference if you're in a bikini or in lacy undies? As long as your "parts" are covered, I don't see a difference.
As for the thread you're referring to, I think it's a bit ridiculous that some ladies got so offended by the pictures. The title clearly states what it is before you click on it!
Edit: Haha Oops, I didn't even answer your question. I would not post pictures on here of myself, not because I'm worried about people finding them, but because I'm not really comfortable with it. I don't even like walking around in a bathing suit in front of my family...I can't imagine letting the internet world seeing my "trouble areas". :P But, I'm not opposed to anyone else choosing to do so!
I've wondered the same thing myself, and I'm surprised so many people have posted them here... when I see the posts, I wonder about privacy for the posters. When you post something on WB, it's there forever, and you can't take it down. If I really wanted to share my budoir photos, I'd share a link to an online gallery, that way I could take it down at any time later if I decided to. I just don't think it's a good idea to share those photos right on WB for the world to see, but that's me.
EDIT - I have no issues with others posting them, I would just worry about it myself.
@mishelleez: :) I hope you don't mind me trying to move the discussion off of your thread! I think your pictures are gorgeous and that's all that should have been discussed there.
i think some people see a difference between wearing a bikini and posting photos of themselves in suggestive clothing in suggestive poses. there is a difference -- and there are some people might feel uncomfortable having people other than their significant other or spouse to see those. nothing wrong with either -- all a matter of opinion & personal preference.
I would not post them, although I have zero problems with other people deciding to post them. While, Yes, a bikini covers up as much skin as lingerie (sometimes less) it is the intent of the pictures that makes the difference to me. Those are meant to be suggestive poses for your FI, I would not want to share them publicly and I know my FI would not be ok with me posting them on the internet. But again, thats my reasoning and I can understand the other ladies wanting to show off their hot pictures.
@Mrs.KMM:No thank you. I was thinking about having it deleted just because of the discussion that was going on, I posted them because I wanted to help bees out because I got my ideas from other bees :)
i think it's fine to post them but you have to fully understand that ANYONE can take your pics and post them wherever they want. you lose all control of them once you post.
Personally, I would never do it. I also would not post beach pics or anything of that sort. Here are my reasons:
1. I think the main deterrent for me it the creeper-factor. In the thread you are talking about, a bee posted how a co-worker saw them on her computer screen and made a comment along the lines of "I'm effing tenting it down here". That kind of stuff is disgusting. The thought of some creeper staring at pictures of me that were meant for my FI and whacking it makes me want to scrub my skin off. Its gross and creepy.
2. FI would be SUPER PISSED.
3. I am a teacher. Stuff like that can come back to haunt me big time. I dont need questionable pictures of me on the internet where an employer can find them, because school districts search for this kind of stuff when hiring. People are really conservative when it comes to their kids and pictures of me half-naked on the internet could be potentially career-ruining, with or without my name on it. I wont take that chance.
That being said, I have never gone into a boudoir thread and posted about how she shouldn't post them on the internet. Its a personal choice and I am not going to tell another woman what she can and cannot do with her body.
Oh and mishelleez, your pictures were HOT. lol. I didnt comment in your thread because of the drama.
It's interesting that you added the bikini angle to this discussion. My co-worker (I only allow a few to see my Facebook) mentioned two pictures I had posted from the beach/boat the other day. I didn't think twice about posting them. I asked some other friends and they said they would not post bikini pictures. I ended up deleting them. I may feel different when the time comes, but I most likely will not post boudoir pictures on the internet. My reasoning is that I'm taking them with the intention that they are for FH's eye's only. Power to the ladies who do post them. They are always so beautifully done.
I would be hesitant to post anything like that online but i can see how people get excited about them and want to share. I am not against anyone who wants to but i don't think i would personally put them online because really they are just for my husband. maybe i would show them off to my close girl friends if i was excited about them.. but def wouldn't put them out their for EVERYONE.
I would not post mine. But then again, I won't be posting my wedding pictures here either, at least not ones with people's faces in them. It's a privacy thing.
Even if I weren't such a private person though, I still don't think I would post boudior pics online. My ex was a real creep, the kind of guy who would troll boards like this and save photos like a lot I've seen here on WB and *ahem* refer to them later.
We used to fight about his porn use all the time, because I hate how degrading to women most of it is, and he used to say stuff like, "Well, I'll stop looking at porn and just look at [photos that he found on boards and social pages] instead - it's not degrading when they're doing it like this! They want the attention, that's why they post them."
Ick ick ick. :(
It's obviously a personal choice to post or not post, and what you don't personally experience may not hurt you, but I genuinely hope for all those who post boudoir photos of themselves that no gross creeper like my ex ever finds your photos and disrespects you the way he would.
No, no, and no. I do have some pictures of me in a bikini on facebook, but I am not making provocative faces or sexual gestures. I am at a beach with a group of friends looking normal, not all done up and in skimpy outfits hoisting my goodies up trying to look sexual. I think the point of a boudoir session is to be sexy and intriging and to do it as a gift for someone you love. I'm not going to bash people who do it, thats their choice, but personally I would never as I know how public these things are and how things can stay forever on the internet. I should add I don't post ANY personal pics on WB so obviously that makes my choice onesided.
NEVER! I have a friend who works for an online adult entertainment company. (They run several porn sites basically). I know on one of the sites in the members only sections they actually have a board where people have linked FB pics, flicker photos, and other images people have put up on the internet. It's not at all inconceivable for you to put your sexy pics on WB and then be able to view them on a porn site, the only person I want having a happy moment from viewing pics of me is my FH, not some skeeze perusing porn sites, so no thank you.
I would never do it, but I don't care if other people do!! Everyone has a right to their own decisions :)
I have no problem with other people posting theirs, and, in fact, I'm thankful for some of those photos because they serve as great inspiration for when I finally go and do mine. I won't post mine, though, just because I think these particular photos are meant as a gift for my future husband. There are photos of me in skimpier clothing out there, but the difference here is that I'm taking my boudoir photos in preparation for my wedding as a gift for my future husband, and thus other people shouldn't get to share in that.
I would not, but I don't have any problem with others making the choice to do so. To me it's not how much clothing you're wearing, but HOW you're wearing that clothing, posing, etc. I don't want people spanking the monkey to pictures of me. I don't want coworkers seeing me that way. That said, I thought the referenced pictures were gorgeous and well done. They actually made me consider getting boudior photos when I did not think I'd want to at all before.
I wouldn't/didn't post my boudoir photos on WB just because I'm not comfortable with those kinds of pictures being online for whoever to see. Now, as for other Bees? If they want to post them, then rock on and more power to them!
I definitely would not post pictures like that online, unless there was one where you really couldn't see what type of photo it was.
I say that because at my age (I'm only 20) I have no idea what career opportunities might come my way, and I hate to think about something like that resurfacing.
Plus, if I was to take boudoir photos, it'd be for an album for my FI and myself only. I wouldn't want anything displayed or anywhere that someone else could find them.
I would never post pics of that nature. Like a few said, it's not really the amount of clothes, but the suggestive nature of the poses! Anybody could view the pics.
But I don't mind others' who post these things. I just wouldn't do it myself!
I don't have a problem with people choosing to post them, but I wouldn't for this reason...Granted it was in high school, but a girl did pics like that for her BF for Valentines day and then posted them on website like this thinking it was anonymous. Someone found them and printed out tons of those pics and plastered them all around school. I have an "arch nemesis" as I have mentioned in another post, and I would be TERRIFIED that she'd get her hands on them and then do the same but like at my wedding or something. Can you imagine?!
I love the bikini comparison here--you say that you would post pictures of you in a bikini, so why not boudoir pics....but would you walk around in public in the outfits you wear for a boudoir shoot? No. Because regardless of the fact that more is technically covered, the fact is that the purpose of the outfit is entirely different. I wouldn't have a problem being in a bikini at a company event at a beach or a lake or on a boat. But I would NEVER in a million years, wear a corset, fishnets, garters, and sex-me pumps anywhere anyone other than my husband can see me. To each their own, but putting photos like that on the internet means that anyone can do whatever they want with them...and there are some serious creeps and weirdos out there. So, no thank you.
First of all I'd have to be a hell of a lot thinner... lol. But assuming I was, I still wouldn't do it. I don't think its a big deal or judge other people who do... but I'm 25. Life is crazy. Who knows what I'll be doing at 45 and lord knows once that stuff is out there it is out there. It might not be something I want out there when I'm older. Better safe than sorry imo.
I would not personally just because my boudoir pics are artistic nude, and the only way I would allow those to be posted would be if my photographer wanted to enter a contest or something along those lines. But other than that, it's something I'd like just for FI. That being said, I'm a big fan of boudoir photography. I find it beautiful and evocative and a wonderful artistic medium so I don't mind if others do and even appreciate it.
When (not if...haha!) I get the rockin' body like I've seen here, I might think about posting it.
I am a little bit concerned about the "creep" factor, so if I do, I will probably send viewers to a link online that will allow me to take the pictures down anytime. Of course, if I do decide to post pictures, I will make sure my fiance' knows about it.
Seriously ladies, don't do it. It might seem cool now, but what happens in five years when you're trying to get a job, someone runs a simple internet search on you, and those pics come up? Think about how your current attention-seeking actions will affect you down the line. The very first thing we do at my place of employment is find people's aliases online. More and more companies are doing this. Don't be dumb.
And it's really not the same thing as a bikini, and y'all know that. It has nothing to do with the *amount* of clothing, it's about the suggestion of the photo. Bikini beach photos say "I'm on vacation!" Boudior photos have a totally different, private message.
Keep it private and keep it classy, ladies.
For me, it's no because it's a gift for DH and suggestive in a way meant only for him..
Plus, how upset would he be if he found the pics on the Internet before I actually offer them to him - for the world to see before him.. Actually he'd be upset to find them even if it was after he got them..
Funny -when I was younger (I'm 32) i had no sense of the impact of those kinds of things, so I probably wouldn't have cared. Now, though, knowing the unlimited reach of the internet and the *permanence* of it, I just wouldn't want to make the kind of commitment to have those photos out in cyberspace and beyond my control... potentially for a LONG TIME. Who's to say some boss in the future won't see them? Or my mother-in-law? Or my kids? I basically wouldn't post something online I'm not comfortable wearing to work (that includes bathing suits - if it's digital, it's around forever.. wearing it to the beach for a few hours does not have an impact on my future).
That being said: other Bees can do whatever the heck they like. That should be everyone's mantra about everything! To each their own :-)
@CupcakeSprinkles: But how is an employer going to find it if you never use your real name on WB and you don't use your WB username anywhere else? There is no link that would pull them up in a search.
I love my b-pics and part of me would love to share them, but I wouldn't. Not here. We have zero privacy here, anyone with internet access is one google search away from seeing those photos. More than the skin they show, those photos are meant to be provocative and sexual. I would be mortified about the possibility of my coworkers or family coming across them. My sexuality is a big part of me, but not part of the image I want to share with the rest of the world.
@mishelleez: Please know this has no bearing on your photos or your decision to post your pics...I thought they were gorgeous! If someone else's comfortable posting their own pics, I have no problem looking at them :)
@Mrs.KMM: I hate to say it, but the majority of posters (myself included) make it pretty easy to find out more. Many people use their screen names for more than one thing, and if any one of those accounts has a name attached - even a benign one, like Twitter- they'd know to just search the screen name.
@Mrs.KMM: i have thought about this too (with no name attached).. but all it takes is one bride/MIL/SIL/anyone who is perusing WB and recognizes you to copy and forward them, or post them elsewhere with your name.. I'm just not willing to take that chance. But again, that's just me! :)
Also to add to what I posted before and to answer the bikini related question which I didn't before. I can't remember the last time I was at the beach wearing heels that I just so happen to use to stick under my thong and lift in a provocative manner. Makes for a GREAT sexy shot but not appropriate beach wear. AND to add, if you are not someone who cares what others think of you or are bothered by the idea of people getting their rocks off to your goodies, then why should it bother you that people say anything about you posting in the first place?
I don't think it matters WHAT you post, nudie pics, venue pics, dress pics, ring shots, etc, its all fair game if its on the internet. If you post something you love on the internet you need to be prepared for ugly comments, including people thinking that you made a bad choice in posting sexually suggestive pics.
That's fine if other's don't agree on whether they would post the pics but the fact of the matter is if a title says "NSW Boudoir Pics" don't go into the freaking thread and start bashing the poster for putting her pictures up. Unless the OP asks whether you think she should post them there is absolutely no need for someone to offer their UNWANTED opinion. The title says EXACTLY what is in the thread, if you don't want to see it or are feeling "preachy" scroll past! Seriously it's ridiculous how self righteous people can be.
@Mrs.KMM: I think the issue is that most people post more information than they think they do. Their first name here, their fiance's name there... a link to a wedding website or blog which reveals even more information. It doesn't take very much for a savvy Googler to piece things together.
And like lilyfaith said, lots of people reuse screennames, so googling someone's screenname could result in pulling up their blog, Amazon wishlist, Goodreads account, whatever... all of which might contain even more personal info.
For all those reasons I don't think it's a great idea to post budoir pics.
I don't see anything wrong with posting. You see more at the beach!
Personally, I would never be comfortable posting my own. But then I don't like having my picture taken at all!
@lilyfaith: and @HannahT: I guess maybe I'm different than many Bees in that I don't use this username anywhere else. I think I put my wedding website in my profile and I would take that down before I posted boudior but I can't think of anything else on this site that would link my name to me. I'm very conscious of always using DH/FI and don't use my name. I've posted other pictures of me/us but again those aren't findable by search of my name.
@MissBoston: I see what you're saying but I also know that my friends / MIL / SIL /etc who could eventually be on WB and find them wouldn't put them other places with my name. The people that might stummble accross them and actually recognize you get nothing out of re-posting them somewhere else.
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