(Closed) to Register or NOT to Register, that is the question?

posted 7 years ago in Encore
Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

We are an encore couple and the kids have moved out. We have also been together for just over 10 years. We have decided not to register. If our guests choose to get us something that will be great; however, we are not expecting gifts. We feel that if we registered that guests would think we are expecting gifts, and we aren’t. We just don’t feel it would be appropriate for us to register, even though there are things that we would like too.

That being said, if you feel comfortable registering, then go ahead and do it. Registry information is usually given via word of mouth. If it were me, I would not post it on Facebook. If you have a website, you could put the information there.

Post # 4
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

20 years of marriage, registering is not something I would do.  I don’t register for my birthday.  IMO – I really don’t think it is appropriate, especially for a destination affair.

And, spreading it on FB, screams “buy us something”

Sorry – like I said – IMO

Post # 5
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5755 posts
Bee Keeper

I wouldn’t register either. If people want to give you something as a gift, they will.

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Well, you seem to have your mind made up, BUT with it being a vow renewal, I don’t think you’re out of line registering.  I know if I were your guest, even if you told me not to, I’d be bringing you a gift, wouldn’t you do the same?   As for getting the word out: one NEVER announces one’s own registry.  Tell your children.  Chances are, people would ask them for ideas anyway.

Just saying…

Post # 9
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

Fwiw, if it were a new marriage, I could see a registry, but for an established married couple, I don’t see that.

However, there will probably be guests bringing gifts anyway.  If it were me, I would (if I were asked) say we’d like gift cards to blah blah blah store or something like that.  And then the word would get out.

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