Post # 1
How many of you lovely brides are forgoing the bridal registration? My FI and I already live together and really don’t need anything (we like our 500 sq foot home as clutter free as possible) but how to we nicely let it be known that gifts are not necessary without sounding like we expected to be given gifts?
Should we make arrangements at the reception just in case people decide to bring gifts anyway?
Post # 3
I’m totally with you on the wanting to minimize clutter. You definitely have to know your guests though. If we hadn’t put together a registry I think we would have gotten all kinds of crap, er, I mean, things we don’t really want or need. So we put something to this effect on our website:
Your presence is present enough, however if you feel the need to give a gift, please consider one of our favorite charities. For you old fashioned types we put together a traditional registry.
[Link to Justin Cowboy Crisis Fund]
[Link to Heifer, Int]
[Link to Wishpot]
(But it was worded a bit more nicely. I just can’t access it to copy and paste right now.)
Post # 4
I would still create a small registry since inevitably there will be a few ppl who want to give gifts. On this registry I would include things you may always need — extra fluffy towels or another set of sheets, brita filters, etc. And also put on a few gift cards. If someone sees a registry with fewer items, they will likely get the hint that there isn’t anything larger you need and will either give you cash or nothing.
Post # 5
I would probably go the charitable donation route. Put it on your website and ask family members to spread the word. If you do decide to do a registry, put a few items on there that you would like to upgrade.
Post # 6
can you politely ask for stuff (either material items or $) for your honeymoon? there are a few websites out there that allow ppl to give $$ (for hotel, flight, activities etc) twds honeymoon excursions etc.
Post # 7
I’m the same way, so we went with honeyfund, which is the only honeymoon registry site I could find that doesn’t take a commission on your gifts! Of course, not everyone is a fan of honeymoon registries, so we also put together a small registery at Bed Bath and Beyond for just a few things we really wanted for the kitchen… copper pots and pans, a pizza cutter (age 30 and I don’t have one!), and of course a shamwow!
That said, I think others’ ideas about charitable donations are wonderful too!
Post # 8
ahh SarahEm! I want a shamwow too! It’s funny how people make fun of “as seen on tv” products but man, they do work wonders sometimes!
Post # 9
i love the idea to have people inveet the money for you! A great way to plan for the future without feelinga burden on your wallets–and a great way for your guests to share a gift with you if they want!
Post # 10
If you don’t register, you will get lots of stuff you don’t want and can’t return anywhere. If you do register, you get to be specific about what you want and need. Since I never give cash gifts (that’s just how I was raised), if I found out through the grapevine that you gave away all the present you were given, I would feel as a guest that I wasted my money on you. You may have some people who wonder why you even wanted them there if you are just going to be giving away what they gave you. Not to mention, thank you cards will be quite awkward, as well anyone who makes future visits to your home.