Thanks, everyone, for your thoughts!
I appreciate the comments on using the gift to buy a him gift… I clearly didn’t see it in the manner you illustrated and see how it could be ego-bruising – which is the LAST thing I want! I justified it because he’s been DROOLING over this particular watch – which, honestly, made his gift to me more special, because I know he could have put that money towards buying something for himself.
I do feel odd about returning it – meaning, it would bring me joy to use it – but I can’t get past the ‘every day’ use thing (and only using every now and then). I’ll post a link to the purse at the bottom. It’s so narrow, I wouldn’t be able to fit my phone and keys in the purse! The inside has this big metal plate, and I’m concerned about my iPhone getting smooshed (that’s how narrow it is!).
I have considered returning it for a slightly bigger ‘daily use’ purse (which I know he’d be fine with). Maybe that’s the route to focus on… unfortunately, I can’t find anything I want – which is part of the problem!
@Hyperventilate: we combine finances, so it’s all ‘our’ money – it feels like the same ‘pot’ of money, so to speak, and not using ‘his’ money to buy something for him.
@Mrs. Gremmlin: super helpful comment – thank you!
@MLDoddie: It’s a Ferragamo clutch. I posted a link above. Technically, he didn’t pick it out. Months ago, we were wandering through the store and I came accross it and ooh’d and ahh’d over it, since it was the first clutch I’ve seen in ages that I thought was sorta cute. I wasn’t serious about it nor would I plunk down that kind of money for purse – so, in my mind, it was just a silly thing in passing. He apparently was taking notes. I’m definitely keeping this in mind, for future ooh’ing and aah’ing.
@JrzyGurl: Your words rang loud for me. I have trouble letting people spoil me (since I’m the one who usually does the spoiling). I definitely don’t want to rob him of the joy of giving/spoiling.
@Sunfire: We’ve had similar things happen in the past where he’s returned what I gave him and bought what he really wanted instead. I didn’t care – all I was happy about was that he had something he wanted. Super helpful, as always, Sunfire! 🙂
To all who commented to return the gift and get a replacement that I’ll use: THANK YOU!! I think the lightbulb is going off: it’s purse shopping time!