(Closed) To return or not return (gift DH purchased)?

posted 5 years ago in The Lounge
  • poll: To return or not to return?
    Return! : (21 votes)
    45 %
    No, don't return! : (26 votes)
    55 %
  • Post # 3
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    I couldn’t imagine returning a gift my husband bought. But if you buy him the watch, isn’t it just throwing around “wasted” (I am using this term loosely) money? Will he use it “enough” to get the use of the cost? Plus, you’d essentially be using his money to buy his own watch, right? Kind of strange.

    I wouldn’t return it if I were in your shoes. I wouldn’t mind if my husband said he didn’t care if I did, but I wouldn’t return it purely because it was something he bought for me.

    Post # 4
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2011 - Florida Aquarium

    My husband is fine with me returning stuff I don’t like/want. He’d prefer that to something just not being used. BUT, he’d be pretty hurt if I turned around and used that money for a gift for him. His ego would be a bit bruised because he really, really wanted me to have something special– but instead I returned it and gave him something special. Does that make sense?

     

    Post # 5
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I’m curious to know what kind of purse it is?

    This is one thing that would probably hurt my FH’s feelings.  He picked it out – just for you!  Keep it!

    Post # 6
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    If you won’t use it, return it for a purse you will use. or something else you will use often. He wanted to spoil you so let him, but have it be something you will truly appreciate it.

    Post # 7
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2012

    @Hyperventilate:   Agree with this.

    I wouldn’t have the heart to return anything my husband bought for me, mostly because of the thoughtfulness he puts into it.  And I always love anything he gives me, anyway.

    I think you should keep the purse.  I wouldn’t recommend returning the purse to get him a watch – he probably wouldn’t like that – I know I wouldn’t want someone to do that to me.  Put youself in his place and think what you would want him to do if the situation were reversed.

    Post # 8
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I wouldn’t return it and I would DEFINITELY not use it to get him a watch.

    I would exchange it for an equally nice purse that you can wear everyday.

    Post # 9
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    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I’d return it but I’d exchange it for the new everyday purse that he was hoping to fulfill, not to buy him a gift.  DH would rather me have something I can actually use that to keep something just for it to sit in the closet.  What a waste of money!  But I think whatever you get from returning the purse should be a “replacement” gift for you that is basically “from him”.

    Post # 10
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I would return it, my husband might harrass me about it but generally we return things we don’t think will get used. I definitely would not use that money towards a gift for him though.

    Post # 11
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

    I’d return it and buy another purse for you. I do not think you should get him something with the money.

    Post # 12
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2015

    I’m gonna have to bring up this “what if” to my SO, I have no idea if it would hurt her feelings if I was in your situation.

    I’m pretty blunt & open so I would probably tell her I don’t think I’ll get as much use out of it as I originally thought & for the price, I would love to get something equally as wonderful that I could get use out of every single day. But if it would cause hurt feelings, I think I’d bite my tongue…esp if you WILL use it sometimes, just not all the time.

    Post # 13
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    Honey bee

    I’m curious to see a pic too πŸ™‚

    I probably wouldnt have the heart to return it and just look for ways to use it more often than normal.

    Post # 14
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I’m sorry, but I can’t disagree more with the people saying that you can’t return this gift. Don’t waste your husband’s money. However, I would say to get something that you really like and would enjoy wearing more often, because I do think it would be weird to buy him a watch with it though…

     

    Post # 15
    Bee
    1835 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2012 - Oak Tree Manor

    @phillybride61513:  Agreed. Especially if it’s a lot of money. I would feel really guilty having a super expensive gift that just sat in my closet…If you return it, exchange it for a great everyday purse (and honestly, don’t be afraid to splurge on that – why not splurge on the purse you use everyday? I don’t 100% understand spending a lot on a fancy occasions purse that you won’t use often – if you’re going to get a ton of mileage out of something, it’s worth the splurge! At least that’s what the impulse buyer in me tells me haha).

    Somewhat similar story: I never buy myself expensive shoes. I usually buy shoes at Target for $40-$50. DH was gone on a business trip, and he missed me a lot and bought me a pair of expensive $150 flats. They didn’t fit right, and honestly, I wasn’t crazy about the snakeskin pattern of them. I exchanged them at Macy’s for a cute pair of wedges that I wear allll the time, and we joke that they’re the shoes he picked out for me. He’s okay with it, especially since I wear them all the time and think of him. Maybe we’re weird… But yes, long story short, you guys are married and can communicate these things – if you’re not going to use the purse much, maybe go shopping with your DH and pick out an everyday purse that you’ll use a ton. Then it’ll be “the purse you both picked out” πŸ™‚

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