Post # 1
Ok y’all, I am getting married at a Bed and Breakfast with a casual ceremony in less than a month. Now with all the RSVPs in, we are trying to decide how to organize everyone. This is the situation:
Because it’s a bed and breakfast people will be seated in three different rooms of the first floor of the house. The house is pretty open so it won’t hinder people from mingling. All of a sudden I got overwhelmed thinking about how are people going to know where to go, and wanting people to not just go off and sit for dinner, so I decided to do this.
Name each room a different name and number the tables in each room. On an escort card tell people which room and which table to go sit at.
Or, Just name the rooms and let people sit wherever they want within those rooms.
My mother has told me that this was a stupid idea, so naturally I came to wedding bee.
So, what would you do? Let people sit willy nilly and perhaps not get family sitting with each other and loud frat boys causing a ruckus with the church ladies? Or Have a seating chart.
Side note: I have never been to a wedding with a seating chart. So I dont know if it makes people less confused or more confused.
Post # 3
I was going to have my wedding at a B&B but realized it was too small for the number of people I was having. Anyway when I was having it at the B&B I was just going to let people sit where they wanted.
Post # 4
I personally like the idea of the rooms being named- provided that they have a sign in each room to make it less confusing. As far as then seating people or letting them free reign within the rooms, I think is up to you. It is less stressful as a guest when a seat is picked for me, and I can still mingle/swap if wanted…. but it’s more stressful as the bride to figure out how to seat everyone… If your guests really are frat boys and church ladies, I may consider making a chart- save them the stres…
Post # 5
I would DEFINITELY name the rooms, number the tables (don’t have 3 #1’s – use different numbers for each table in the entire B&B), and then put the room + table number on the cards.
Assigned tables (not seating) is my preference when it comes to weddings. Anything less is too confusing and you end up with random tables.
People will naturally get up and mingle and this way you can put people who know each other next to each other – without having people trying to crash other rooms for the seated part of the dinner.
Post # 6
Even if you don’t assign seats, please assign tables. While it is more work for you, I think it would make a much more enjoyable experience for your guests.
The last big event I attended was a company Christmas party with about 300+ people. There wasn’t assigned seating or tables. My FI and I got there early, staked out a table with some other people near some co-workers, put down our stuff and went to get a drink. We come back maybe 20 minutes later and our stuff was moved and only 1 seat was available. The adjoining tables were all full. We had to pick up our coats and spend the next 20 minutes slowly walking around the room looking for people we knew and 2 seats together.
I’m doing my seating chart right now, so I know how much work it is. To simplify the matter, we wrote all our guests names on mini post-it notes and stuck them to paper plates. This way we could arrange and re-arrange (and decide where the tables were going).
Do you really want your grandparents/parents/siblings/aunts/uncles to be stuck at the back of some room the furthest away from you because they were taking pics with you and not rushing to claim their seats?