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posted 3 years ago in Waiting
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    Querida       Sugar Land, TX

    So I made a decision this weekend...

    FH and I were discussing my ring, which I completely picked out, but is being custom made by a local jeweler. It should be ready soon and I am beyond thrilled.  FH and I want nothing more than to proclaim to the world (via bling) that we are oh-so-cute in love and can't wait to be married. That being said, FH asked if I wanted to see the completed ring before he officially proposed - and I without a second's hesitation said Yes, of course BUT... then I thought about it. Do I really want to see MY ring before it's mine to wear? In the end I decided no - I would not. If there is by chance a minor something I'm not happy with, we'll get it fixed later. I want to know as little as possible about when he picks it up, where it is and his proposal plan.

    Did you see your ring before? Why or why not?
    This is the inspiration ring, btw  (heehee)

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    scrapsoflife    December 19, 2008   San Diego

    I did but I didn't. My DH had me pick out three rings that I really liked and then he made the final choice. Let me just say he knows me so well! He picked the ring I was hoping he'd pick! And I was glad I didn't know his choice until he proposed! It was such a nice surprise :D

     
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    lovebird    July 2008   New York and Cancun

    I didn't see the ring because I didn't know the proposal was coming.  If I were you, I'd wait. It'll be all the more special that way when he does pop the question.

     
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    LatteLove    June 19, 2009   Chicago/San Diego

    I hadn't seen it, beause my proposal was a surprise--as was the ring!  I'm very glad that not only was the proposal a surprise, but also that he picked out the the ring mostly by himself and I didn't see it ahead of time.

    Leave the suspense and surprise for the proposal!!  Don't peek at your ring...you might just regret it! (and will you really regret it if you don't see it ahead of time?  probably not)

    I think you'll be happy you waited to see it!

     
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    mary-alice-me    May 24, 2009   Kentucky

    I didn't see my ring before he proposed. I did know what it looked like because we worked on it together.

    It doesn't really matter, but you can wait. Let the anticipation build!!

     
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    Querida       Sugar Land, TX

    Thanks ladies - you have confirmed what my second (better) thoughts were. :)  Since we do not live together, it won't be too hard not to peek. 

     
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    Shoe Queen    November 7, 2009   West Palm Beach, FL/wedding in Jacksonville, FL

    I had seen it already because he gave me his grandmother's ring that his mom used to wear. So I actually saw it quite a lot never knowing that it would be mine!

     
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    blakebee       NC

    I'm currently waiting on a ring that I picked out and the jeweler is desiging right now... I'm definitely going to be surprised when he proposes!  I'm kind of scared that I'll be VERY happy and then be like "OMG!  It wasn't supposed to look like THAT!" :)  I'm just a worrier, and I know it's all fixable... I just can't wait!!!!

     
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    Gerbera    August 7, 2010   NY

    Absolutely NOT. I dion't want to help pick it out. I don't want to be there when he purchases it. Nada. I want it to be a complete surprise.

    Couple years ago when we were down in the Caymans I saw this engagement ring that I absolutely fell in love with and it was an amazing deal. Come on, we were in the Caymans! You knew it was a beautiful diamond and a good deal! Even though the FI's parents offered to lend us money to buy it I just could not stomach the fact that I would be there when he buys my engagement ring. Or that I had to have a ring that we could not afford.

    I LOVE my ring now more than that Cayman ring, bar none! It's beautiful and perfect for me. And he picked every single thing on that ring, from the band to the prongs to the diamond. To See or Not to See :  wedding rings engagement Icon Biggrin

     
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    JennyBryde    September 18, 2010   Moline, IL

    Before my FI proposed, I found the receipt for the ring one day, and I was so disappointed!  He still surprised me when he proposed, but it took some of the magic away, and you can never get that back! 

     
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    JeanL1984    October 16, 2010   Kingston, PA

    I've picked out what I want, and we'll be going in about a month to pick out a stone and actually buy it. It's not a total surprise, but once it's ready I don't want to see it until he proposes!

     
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    CHK    July 10, 2010   Northern Idaho

    We actually went ring shopping for the second time on Saturday. Now he and the jewler know the basic parameters of what I want, and which parts of about 10 rings to combine into 1. Its up to him to figure out size vs. quality and platinum vs. white gold. Boyfriend has told me that unless he and the jewler can't work something out, we are done shopping!

    Aw hell I just realized that means the excruciating waiting begins. Hell.

     
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    CHK    July 10, 2010   Northern Idaho

    @Quierda- Also just realized that my ring looks similar to the inspiration ring you showed above! Is that an asscher cut? I like the split prong basket setting like in the photo...

     
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    bellenga    July 31, 2010   Georgia

    I haven't seen it but showed him what I wanted when he asked me what I wanted!   It's pretty straightforward..a combo of a cartier and a tiffany standard offering but with a slightly larger center stone. 

     
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    bellenga    July 31, 2010   Georgia

    Btw, Querida that inspiration ring is gorgeous!  congrats in advance! 

     
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    Curlysue    June 5, 2009  

    I have a general idea of what mine is going to look like because we kind of drew up this ring ourselves.  Ever since then though he has been doing all the work and I'm excited to see what it will actually look like.  My guy has great tastes and the gal we spoke with at the jewelers is awesome so I have no doubt the ring will be beautiful.  I have told my BF though he needs to get better about lying for this special occasion.  He can't cover up anything to save his life, which is good in the long run (To See or Not to See :  wedding rings engagement Icon Wink), but I told him I don't want to know when he goes to see the jeweler or anything.  He said he will try but he doesn't want to lie to me where he's going when he's not actually going there.  Sweet guy!

    Just like bellenga, I agree, the ring is gorgeous!!

     
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    Querida       Sugar Land, TX

    @Curlysue - we're doing the same thing.  Our convo the other day went like this:

    Mr.Q: Ok - so you DO NOT want to see or be told about anything, right?

    Me: Right.

    Mr. Q Ok - that's great, but PLEASE do not ask me questions - I hate trying to lie to you and I'm bad at it anyway.  Promise?

    Me: OK - I promise.   To See or Not to See :  wedding rings engagement Icon Wink

    So - I'm still waiting - BUT I am really doing my best to not ask questions. It's hard - like Blakebee said - I can't wait and a tiny part of me is scared that it won't be what I imagined.  Pushing the scared down.  Back to waiting. 

     

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