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A friend of mine who I was really hoping would be at my wedding recently told me that he and his husband just booked tickets to Japan for a 3 week vacation and my wedding falls smack in the middle of their vacation. I am quite sad that they won't be attending, but I'm also stuck with a problem. I sent them STDs back in December (for my September wedding). Do I, or do I Not, send them an invitation now? Their plans are pretty cemented- plane tickets, hotels reservations, and guided tours booked. i feel silly sending an invite knowing it'll be a definate no, but I feel rude not sending an invite, since I sent them a STD and want them to know I wish they could have made it.

What to do?

I agree with MissAsB, I did the same thing. To me, it just felt like a nice little gesture to let them know I would like them there.

I have a good friend who will be in Europe on my wedding date.  He booked his trip right before getting the STD.  I slipped a note in saying "In case plans change . . . "

I think you should still extend an invitation to them as a courtesy... you could even put a little note in to say "Just in case your vacation plans fall through..."