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    pec1216       Alabama

    Ladies, I'm flip flopping back and forth. I got engaged almost 3 weeks ago and this weekend is my birthday and I was suppose to be with my mom to talk wedding stuff but she's going out of town. I'm off work Monday because I wanted to enjoy my weekend but now I'm thinking that I should go to David's Bridal and just see what types of dresses I like. The real debate is should I go because if I do I'm going alone! I have a step-mom, real mom, and two little sisters that really want to go with me and we're planning on going at the end of the month. The only reason I would like to go alone on Monday would be to go ahead and try some on and figure out what styles I like and everything. I don't want to have to stress when I'm with the moms and sisters. What should I do ladies???

     
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    MrsCunningham2B    September 14, 2012   Socal

    @pec1216: I think that is a great idea. Because that's what I want to do also. LOL! I want to try on dresses without anyone telling what they think and making unhappy faces at me.

    I say go for it!

     
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    mousegirl    May 20, 2011   New Mexico/wedding in Asheville NC

    To shop.

    I went dress shopping alone the first time.  The advantage was definitely being able to figure out things I liked and didn't like without anyone else telling me how I felt.  I did however want some opinions on the dress before I purchased, so about a month after I went by myself I went shopping again with mom, grandma and dad.  If you think your mom will be upset that you went without her the first time, then just 'neglect' to mention it. ;)  Have fun!

     
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    MrsMckaytoBE    March 12, 2011   Wildwood, FL

    Shop!!! I never had any females go shopping with me. My fiance did and it probably save a lot of headaches! It seems to me that when other people go with you they want you to have the dress they want to see you in and not the one you are comfortable. I would still take them obviously but I would tell them look I like this style and not this style. Happy shopping!

     
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    pec1216       Alabama

    Thank you so much ladies! You just confirmed my thoughts about Monday. My fear about going for the first time with my family and friends is that they would give me those looks or say something about a dress that I love. I'm so excited! So should I just go to David's or should I go to other local stores also?

     
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    jo.lee    September 10, 2011   Indianapolis

    @pec1216: Great idea, I went with just my mom the first time to see what styles would look best, and when my best friend got engaged, just the two of us went for the same reason.

    I would keep it to just David's Bridal, since they have every style of dress you can imagine. Since you're technically only researching styles, you won't need to go to a bunch of stores :).

     
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    KatNYC2011    September 24, 2011   London, UK (american expat)

    @pec1216: I'm thinking of doing the exact same thing. Got engaged over labor day and my mom is coming to visit/dress shop in 2 weeks. However, she'll only be here for long enough to go to 2 salons, so I was thinking about going to the David's Bridal in the city and trying some stuff on first to get an idea of how things look on me.

    But there's also a part of me that wants my mom to be there with me for the first time I EVER put on a wedding dress.

     
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    aaiimmee    November 13, 2010   Ohio

    I only went once and just took my mom, for the same reason. I didnt want to bring FMIL, FSIL, sisters, aunts, bmaids, or anyone else. I knew it would be very easy and no fussiness with just my mom. I am SO glad I did it that way. If you are worried about stressing over dress shopping with all of those people there, then why bring them along? Good luck on dress shopping! It is VERY exciting!

     
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    aaiimmee    November 13, 2010   Ohio

    @KatNYC2011: I agree. I could not imagine trying on any wedding dresses for the first time without my mom being there. It takes away from part of the experience to have already gone once by yourself.

     
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    pec1216       Alabama

    My stress isn't really about their reactions but more about if I only took my mom, my step-mom would be upset. They have different taste so their reactions may differ. I get stressed very easily about confrontation so I just want it to be painless.

     
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    mousegirl    May 20, 2011   New Mexico/wedding in Asheville NC

    I would just go to David's Bridal.  They have a great variety of styles, so you'll get an idea.  The other bridal shops are more likely to remember you specifically if you go back.  So I'd save the other bridal shops for mom and step-mom.  Try not to stress!

     
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    papercrayons    October 21, 2011   Miami, Florida

    I say shop for sure! I wanted to try on dresses I liked without any input so I didn't end up with something that my mom loved, or fam loved, and it wasn't me. I would say go to David's and one other local shop. That way you can compare the different gown qualities and see more fabrics. I went to David's yesterday to try on a dress I really liked and honestly (no offense to anyone there) it was the only one I liked. The others just didn't have that vintage or romantic fabric texture that I wanted.

     
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    Sounds like a good plan to me!

     
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    clane616    May 7, 2011   Chicago; wedding in Florida

    I went alone at first and I'm glad I did.  There is a lot of pressure to please other people.  I think going to get an idea of what you like is great just make sure you tell yourself you absolutely won't commit to buy anything that day. 

     

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