To speak or not to speak…

posted 2 years ago in Reception
Post # 2
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Helper bee

Toronto2014:  you shouldn’t have to speak of you don’t want to. I didn’t give a speech at my wedding and it was fine. We have enough to stress about, without having to stress over making a speech as well! 

Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

My DH is Scottish as well and we got married in Scotland. He spoke. I didn’t. It was great! No one was disappointed (do people expect a bride to speak? I never do). He said a quick thank you to everyone and we ate 🙂

Post # 4
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Bumble bee

Toronto2014:  I’m from the UK. As far as I know it is not normal for the bride to do a speech, although it is becoming a lot more common and I’ll be doing one. So I don’t think the guests would care either way.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013 - Valparaiso, IN

I didn’t give a speech at our reception. I simply stood by DH as he gave a public thank you to everyone right before we left.

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I went to a wedding recently where the bride didn’t speak. First time i have ever seen a bride not speak since its common here.  Most people thought it was a little rude that she didn’t say anything to thank anyone. I understand hating public speaking, we ALLL do. But i think its important to take 2 minutes to thank everyone personally and say a word or two about your hubby. Doesn’t have to be elaborate.  I have bad anxiety and i still said a couple words. 

Post # 7
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Busy bee

I can’t remember a single wedding where the bride gave a speech…. so I’d totally not expect the bride to give a speech

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Out of probably 30 weddings, I’ve only seen the bride speak once and the groom speak once (different weddings). Honestly, we all thought those were strange since it is against the norm. I’m from the U.S. (Midwest).  We thanked guests in a receiving line and then via thank you notes. 

Post # 9
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2011

Stand up with him, and have him say ‘we’ instead of ‘I’ when thanking people.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee

Toronto2014:  I think it is enough if you stand to support him & he uses we instead of I when thanking people. 

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

No way do you have to speak if you don’t want to. No one will think it’s weird. I also hate public speaking; I do it enough for my job that there was no way I wanted to do it at my wedding! 

Post # 13
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

If youw anted to speak, I would certainly think that you should. But if you don’t want to, I don’t think you’re required! I’ve been to weddings where only the husband spoke and I didn’t think it was odd. Maybe you could just let your husband give a thank you speech and chime in, at the end, with “Yes, thank you all so much!”

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Toronto2014:  hey just passing along the vibe from the wedding.  That being said its very odd for the bride not to say anything in my area. 

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