Post # 1
Hey bees! I was really wanting to splurge on my FI ring, but he does not want me to. I feel bad having all the bling on my finger and having something cheap on his. Did you guys splurge on your FI/Hubby’s ring or were you more practical about it?
Post # 3
We haven’t purchased yet but we’ll be pretty practical about it =). I never wear jewelry except the e-ring, which is the only and nicest thing I own, and I don’t want to worry about have 2 nice pieces of jewelry, lol. FI is a pretty low-maintenance kind of guy, so he’d never want anything too impractical. But I can see why you’d definitely want your FI to have something really nice! If he doesn’t want you to though, maybe you can put that money towards something he’d really like? Like tickets to a game or use it during your honeymoon?
Post # 4
FI really isn’t big on finger bling so there will be no splurging there. He insisted! So to make up for the uneven-ness we will be springing for a nice watch. No point on wasting money on something he wont appreciate it.
Post # 5
Are you sure the reason he doesn’t want you to splurge is financial?
I wanted to get my husband a ring that was a little different, but he wanted the plainest, most boring band possible- so it was pretty cheap, but that’s what he wanted.
So, perhaps your FI wants something super simple?
In either case, I would abide by his wishes. You don’t want him to unhappy or resentful about a blingy ring he didn’t really want (for whatever reason he didn’t want it)
Post # 6
My FH isn’t into bling either, but he found a ring that he likes a lot: $1400. Since he put so much into my ring, I’m going to buy him his dream ring.
If he hasn’t found that ring, then it was definitely going to be a titanium band…$95, no worries there!
Post # 7
I also abide by his wishes.
My FI is not into bling and has a habit of losing things (IPODs, phones, wallets). We don’t want to spend a lot on a nice ring just for him to lose it.
He asked for something simple and inexpensive so that is what I am getting him.
Post # 8
Most men will go though 3 wedding rings in their lifetime. They loose them no matter how hard they try not to. Especially if they are very active and need to remove the ring for sports or working around the house. It happens…
Why not be moderate about the cost of your FI ring and instead, splurge on a statement piece like a watch? You can have it engraved and present it to him the day of your wedding. I am doing this for our 1 year anniversary. Aside from a plain platnium band, if you want to splurge on the ring, it usually involves diamond or decorative finishing which most men are not particularly fond of.
Post # 9
@perfectbound: I’ve never heard that before. My feeling is that men and women are no more inherently forgetful.
We’ll be relatively modest with his ring–mine will be platinum so it is the same metal as my engagement ring, but his will probably be white gold because we just can’t afford it. I wish we could–it makes me feel bad that we can’t get him the super fancy, but he doesn’t seem to care.
Besides, we’re looking for estate, so we may luck out and find two platinum bands in our price range!
Post # 10
He is NEVER going to wear the ring so I wont spend more than 100.00 on it. If I could go plastic I would seeing as how he will only wear it on the wedding day
Post # 11
If he doesn’t want to splurge, I wouldn’t. I think the girl’s ring is generally more expensive. My FI doens’t even want a ring. He doesn’t liek jewlery, but he knows the symbolism is important to me. So he is gettign one, but we aren’t spending tons of money. Mine will end up costing a lot more and we’re both ok with that. We have different priorities.
Post # 12
My FH fell in love with the look of a super-pricey designer ring. I felt the same way about having all this bling and him settling t save our budget. We ended up taking a pic of the designer ring to the local jeweler making my ring. They were able to make the changes he wanted and custom make his for a fraction of the cost. He’ll have his dream ring and the budget is still in good shape. I love it when a plan comes together!!!
Post # 13
We went shopping for wedding bands this weekend and we definitely blew the budget on FI’s ring. I have metal allergies, so platinum is really the only metal I can wear on a daily basis that won’t make my skin freak out but FI thought he would get white gold as a cost cutting measure. However, he tried on a platinum ring that he fell in love with and that wasn’t "too flashy". And then the jeweler was talking about how with white gold he’d have to have it redipped and etc etc..and since that’s not something that the FI is going to do on a regular basis, he decided to splurge and get the platinum ring he loved and not worry about it.
I’m kind of glad that he did..he deserves something nice too :o) I got to pick the wedding band I loved the the most without worrying TOO much about cost, so he should get the same advantage.
Post # 14
I think it depends on what he wants. My husband did not care in the least about having an expensive ring so we got him one that costed $60 while mine cost much more. It’s a personal thing. I wouldn’t just splurge for the sake of splurging.
Post # 15
We just got what he wanted. It happened to be inexpensive… but I would have spared no expense for him! The thing is, he likes his WAY better than anything else out there… so I didn’t press it.
Post # 16
We were lucky to work with a jeweler we know, so we got a good deal. His is a little fancy (two tones of gold) but, nothing over the top. I’m glad we were able to get him what he wanted.