Post # 1
Trying to decide whether or not to do save the dates. My mom had never even heard of them while my FMIL says she absolutely insists we should do them because were getting married on a holiday weekend. Just wondering what other Bees are doing or what they think on STDS
Post # 3
I would do them since you are getting married on a holiday weekend. Airfare will be more expensive and people might make other plans if you don’t tell them in advance.
Post # 4
i think if you have a lot of people coming from way out of town or it is a holiday weekend, then they are a good idea. otherwise, they can be cute, but definitely not necessary, especially if one is on a budget
Post # 5
You don’t have to but I would probably send an e-STD in this case.
Post # 6
I agree with MissAsB. Since you are getting married on 9/4 I think it’s probably a good idea to STDs. However, if you are having a smaller wedding and most people already know the date, then I don’t think you have to.
Post # 7
I think not sending STDs will mean that you have fewer people attending your wedding. It’s really good to give people the heads’ up, especially for holiday weekends.
Post # 8
My family had no idea what they were when they got them in the mail (they thought they were our invitations). Our friends knew and appreciated getting them. We’re having our wedding on a holiday weekend and 40 families will be coming from out of town.
If you have many guests from out of town, it’s nice to send them out to give advance notice, especially since it’s a holiday weekend.
Post # 9
STDs aren’t necessary or required by any rule. In fact, they are a relatively recent trend in weddings that has just really taken hold. If you decide not to do them, I would make sure you spread the word by mouth as far as you can. But in the end it’s totally up to your personal preference.
Post # 10
I’ve now gotten them for about 1/2 the weddings I’ve been invited to in the last few years. I appreciate them, ESPECIALLY if they’re planning for a holiday weekend. My cousin got married on the July 4th weekend, didn’t send STDs but did call all of the OOT guests to let them know the date about 4 months before the wedding.
If you don’t want to spend the money, or think your family would be confused, either use word of mouth or an evite to spread the word. You could also set up your wedding website w/ the date, and send the link to friends and family.
Post # 11
We aren’t doing them. For a holiday weekend I would consider sending them to out of town guests and spreding the date by word of mouth.
Post # 12
STD’s aren’t necessary. However, people have busy lives that book up fast these days. If you want to be confident that all the guests that would choose your wedding over other plans will be aware that it’s happening and have the chance to do so… Save the Dates are for you 🙂
Post # 13
I am having the same problem, we are planning our wedding for that same weekend. Still can’t figure out if we need STDs or not! =(