To tell or not to tell?

posted 2 years ago in TTC
  • poll: Should I tell my grandfather we are TTC?
    Yes, tell him. : (9 votes)
    20 %
    No, wait until you are pregnant to tell him : (33 votes)
    75 %
    Other, please explain : (2 votes)
    5 %
  • Post # 2
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    2871 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    Tell him. You live in his house and you need to make sure that he will still want you living in his house when you bring a baby home. But also ask him to keep it to himself that you’re TTC because you don’t want others constantly asking you if you’re pregnant yet.

    Post # 3
    Member
    884 posts
    Busy bee

    I think wait. Sometimes it takes a month, sometimes years to conceive. If people know your TTC and it takes a long time the guessing and comments get tedious. Plus I’m sure your grandfather doesn’t want to think about all the extra sex your having while TTC. Lol. 

    Best of luck to you ttc! 

    Post # 5
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    2704 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: January 2015

    Agree with PP, I would wait to tell him. I’m assuming he knows you want a family. If not, you can casually bring that up, but you don’t need to tell him you’re actively trying.

    Post # 7
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    2871 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    icedraggin:  That’s so wonderful of him! But I would definitely still tell him. 🙂

    Post # 9
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    2704 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: January 2015

    icedraggin:  Then I would bring it up! I would just feel awkward about him knowing you’re doing it to TTC… it’s one of those things everyone knows, but no one talks about haha.

    It’d be nice for him to know the potential of a screaming beaner in the house, in all reality he’ll probably be thrilled. People love babies.

    You’ll get the hang of diapers 😉 do not worry, the ‘yuck-ness’ goes away pretty fast haha.

    Post # 11
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    3531 posts
    Sugar bee

    I don’t know…but it would creep me out a little bit if someone (family or not) was living in house and conceived my great grandchild while living under my roof.  That’s just me personally. I would tell your grandfather and make sure he’s okay with a third person coming into the household eventually.  BEFORE you start trying.  What if he doesn’t want to deal with that? Or wants to sell the house etc.

    Post # 12
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    2725 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    Wait. There’s nothing to tell. Essentially, you are saying “hey gradpa, our sex will now be unprotected!”

    Post # 13
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    4677 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I don’t know.  I think if I were in the situation I wouldn’t outright tell him, but maybe asking him questions or making statements that illude to the fact that you might start trying for a baby soon.  Maybe ask him how he feels about living with a newborn,  or something like that without actually telling him that you are trying.  

    My DH and I are in a similar but different situation.  We own the duplex with live in and rent the upper to some of his good friends, and are renting part of the basement to my sister.  Although I haven’t directly expressed it to anyone in the house, I’m pretty sure everyone knows that we thinking about it/ planning it, and I’m pretty sure one of his friends think we are already pregnant (I’m not!).

    Post # 14
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    3624 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    I wouldn’t tell him, but would just casually mention things like “when we have kids” or “our children”. That will let him know that it is part of the plan without announcing it so bluntly.

    Post # 15
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    2614 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    icedraggin:  Ad someone who has been TTC for 18 months and never in a million years thought it would take this long, I vote no way!! There’s nothing to tell.. Until there’s something to tell!!

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