To the brides that never had that \"moment\"

posted 2 years ago in Dress
Post # 2
385 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

I didn’t have “the moment,” and I also tried on a lot of dresses. I kind of had the opposite problem, though–I like almost all wedding dresses, so it was hard to pick one when they were all so gorgeous! I ended up deciding that I needed to pick the dress that was right for me–right for my body, right for my budget, right for my personality, and right for the type of event I’m trying to throw. I feel pretty confident that I made the right choice, because now, a couple months after buying my dress, whenever I see dresses here on the Bee or on SYTTD, even though I still think they’re all beautiful, I always conclude that none of them would have been as right for me as the one I picked. Either they’re more expensive than my dress or they’re too flashy for my personality or they wouldn’t look right on my body type…the list goes on. My advice for brides who don’t seem to be getting “the moment” is to approach it like any other big decision–with a pro-con list and a logical head on your shoulders. 

Post # 3
2355 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I bought a colored dress. The same exact style in ivory was much more expensive, and I wanted a dress I could wear again (very casual and small civil ceremony/family gathering). I felt like I made a mistake as soon as I put it on, but I kept it out of practicality and because the style was flattering. If you felt pretty in that dress, surely that is enough? You’ve certainly tried on enough. I doubt any dress would give you what you are seeking because you are trying to conjure an emotion.

Post # 4
943 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I didn’t have a big emotional moment if that’s what you mean, but I liked my dress!

Post # 6
1583 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

I loved my dress when I tried it on (and still love it) but I didn’t get all teary or emotional or anything. I think that reaction really depends on the person.

Post # 7
5208 posts
Bee Keeper

Lbward6:  Meh, I think reality television has built everything wedding related into needing to be some kind of starry-eyed event. I love the dress I married my husband in, but that is all it was…..a dress. I’m sentimental about it because it was part of that day, but I never felt emotional when I picked it out.

Post # 8
19 posts

Haha! I just posted about my dress 5 seconds after you did! Yes, I totally did not have “the moment.” I work in luxury fashion and have seen so many wedding dresses or beautiful gowns I could puke. I knew as early as 8 years old that I would have a hard time finding a wedding gown. When I finally picked a gown and went “ok, this will do.” This article made me feel so much better, that I’m not alone in that reaction:

I just have to be ok with my choice and know that the “perfect” dress isn’t really a reality for me. 

Post # 9
1981 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

I had a similar experience to you- After my first couple of appointments, I knew I wanted a  champagne colored dress instead of white or ivory (looks better on my skin tone). I went to a dozen bridal salons, but some salons only had a handful that color to even try.  I am very particular and found a couple things I didn’t like about each dress.

There was one dress I picked out to try on 2 different times. I liked it, but wished the neckline was a little different. Everyone else LOVED the dress, and the salon owner said they could change the neckline to be how I wanted it. I had literally ran out of stores to go to and I was running out of time, so I thought about it. I went home and thought about it a couple of weeks, and decided to get that dress (and ordered it with the different neckline). I like it, but I definitely never had a “moment.” I’m a pretty emotional person who cries about most things, but I didn’t shed a tear about the dress. Oh well!

Post # 10
714 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

HeartsandSparkles:  Same! I’m very emotional about a lot of things and thought I would be with my wedding dress! At the first salon after the engagement I thought I loved a dress but the wedding was fasr away so I waited. Once we had a date I started looking again. I tried on a bunch of dresses. Ended up choosing one that MOH and MOB loved and it was a great deal. I really like my dress but didn’t warrant waterworks. No dress regret here! It’s funny how I fall in love with others dresses though 🙂 

Post # 11
810 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I never really had “that moment” either. Actually, the more I shopped, the less emotional dress shopping became. If anything I wish I had shopped LESS. I teared up some when I tried on my first gown bc I looked like a bride for the first time, but not because the dress was so beautiful. THe dress was actually quite bad.

I actually eventually asked the consultant at the salon if most brides cried when they found their dress, and she said that it happens on occassion, but the vast majority don’t. So THERE Say Yes to the Dress.

Post # 13
306 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Lbward6:  you sound just like me I was basically the same with my dress picking, I worry a little still because it’s a different style then my FI pictures me in but I picked it anyways

Post # 14
26 posts

Some people are just more emotinal than others. I LOVE my dress but I didnt cry and get super emotional. The lady helping didnt think I was too fond of it, but I was super happy on the inside lol.

Post # 15
151 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

Whenever I hear about “that moment” I want to throw up.  I love my dress, but there are other gowns I could have loved too.  There’s too much emphasis on this imaginary perfect dress.  What would have happened if you had gotten married three years ago and your current dress didn’t exist?  You would have had to wear something.

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