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Haha, I may borrow this when the time rolls around for our Sunday jazz brunch reception! Cute dresses.
.... aren't people supposed to ask what you'd like them to wear? I'd find answering questions much better than having people show up in jeans and a tee shirt.
@KatyElle: LOL true but I guess I figure most adults should know what to wear to work, weddings, baseball games etc. :) And when I explain church, kentucky derby or garden party I think that should do it
I swear I am going to get bracelets made that say WWKW (what would Kate wear) LOL
I am being silly but it does amaze me that grownups in their 30-70's are asking this - by now one would assume that they would know - it is a professional urban crowd too and the wedding is at the Four Seasons Hotel. So I figured that would give it away. But if not maybe wait for the invites lol - they will be coming in just over a month hehe
@KatyElle: ditto! I'd rather they ask what to wear than show up in something completely inappropriate. To me it's no different that bees posting questions about what shoes, accessories etc to wear. They are looking for your opinion and your approval.
It can be frustrating when you add it to all the other questions, but, in the big picture, no big deal.
@unixfairy: I agree. It's a wedding. People should expect to dress appropriately!
Actually I thought most brides need to say how fancy or how not fancy the wedding will be in order for the guests to know how to dress. Maybe u can put that info up, dont know about the pics, but at least the description of the attire preferred. Maybe?
My wedding is not fancy at all. So Im telling my family and friends its not a black tie affair.
I also feel that people should know what to wear at that stage in their lives. But who knows, maybe they're just not used to a "garden" wedding. Perhaps they're more used to the traditional churh-->ballroom wedding and just want to make you happy? But if it were me and I was confused what to wear, I'd probably just google "what to wear to garden wedding" rather than ask the bride cause I would feel embarrassed not knowing...
We're in a very different time than it used to be back in the day. Even though it might seem like common sense, a LOT of people really don't know what's appropriate to wear out to the theater, nice restaurant, wedding. Men used to wear suits daily, women mostly wore dresses. Our culture has become much more casual. So it might be a little exasperating, but it's just one of the givens of hosting an event where you'd like people to follow a dress code.
I put a poll on this for fun - I guess it is one of those things that did not occur to me because I usually know what to wear for whatever and when in doubt go the nicer option as a compliment to your hosts.
@jenangeles: modcloth.com
Honestly? If you did put up those dresses as examples of what to wear, I wouldn't pick any of them. They look really casual to me or more like office attire.
I put a little excerpt on our wedding website, seriously. Under Guest Information.
It reads:
Attire Information
Our wedding is neither a formal nor informal affair, so we will call it Semi-Formal. Please dress comfortably but nicely. Think Easter Sunday or Garden Party. Remember, you will be photographed by our awesome photographer!
Though I am now totally thinking your idea is great. Lol. I almost want to put up pictures. But then, the ones that NEED to see it (ahem) are the ones that probably never looked at our website or STD.
I don't think there is anything wrong with asking what to wear, there are so many different types of weddings these days - I've been to formal black tie weddings and weddings where shorts and flip flops were appropriate. I would appreciate that people are trying to make sure they are dressing appropriately, rather than just hazarding a guess! FWIW I had a guest show up in jeans to my wedding and while he was an idiot, I would have definitely preferred he had given a crap and asked me...
@unixfairy: I put a what to wear, what not to wear thing on our wedding website in the FAQ secttion. I tried to make it a little funny and chose pictures that were ridiculous for the not to wear part. I can PM you the link if want.
When I last went to a wedding, we googled "evening wedding attire." But still had no clue, so we called the MOB and asked. Everyone wants to please the bride and not make her aggravated, so it is better to ask!
I'd put something on the website.
Don't put up something snarky--your guests are all asking because you, the host, were not clear with them regarding attire. Garden party and Easter Sunday are actually pretty vague--I have never been to Easter or a garden party. Perhaps saying something like "nice spring day dress" would be a little easier for people to comprehend. Like PPs have said--at least they are asking instead of showing up in jeans or formal evening wear.
Put up a section on your site--usually there is a space for a FAQ type area and say exactly what type of dress you are looking for. Totally put up photos if you think people need a little more help--I'd probably try to find guest photos of a similarly themed/attired wedding or maybe even Derby pictures instead of catalog photos because it will look prettier and people won't be able to think that you're telling them to wear this specific thing.
I know it's tough having guests who care about what they are wearing and want to be appropriate, but I am sure you can make it through this.
@zomgwut: WOW I did not know I was being snarky - thank you - I really was venting a bit because this was a challenge I did not expect. I was more being funny and tongue in cheek and I apologize for offending you.
I guess I have never called my host and honestly have never shown up dressed inappropriately so it was my ignorance in not knowing this was what is expected.
Thank you for the correction
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I would so love to put this on my wedding website . . .
To my friends and family that say they are clueless about what to wear to an afternoon wedding and when I say oh think what you would wear to church on Easter Sunday, the Kentucky Derby, or a Garden Party and you still say you have no clue - here is a picture
It took me about 5 minutes to find these pictures so I am sure you can find something in your closet or if you want an excuse to get a pretty spring frock - you should have lots of choices.
Guys - sport coat or suit and a nice tie - very simple :)
Now please go away :) and stop whining about stuff - mmmm ok thanks bye
OK so I would never do this but it is SOOOOOOOOOO tempting sometimes!!